The Emotionally Healthy Woman Quotes

“For example, I needed to die to defensiveness and social shame, to a critical spirit, to the need to be right, to my fears of vulnerability and weakness, and to people’s approval. For most of my life, the thought of openly admitting my mistakes and vulnerabilities felt worse than death.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Is the life I am living the same as the life that God wants to live in me?”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“For many Christians today, the love of God in Christ remains an intellectual belief we affirm rather than an experiential reality that transforms our thoughts and feelings about ourselves. As a result, we continue to look for love from other people in destructive ways.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“For many Christians today, the love of God in Christ remains an intellectual belief we affirm rather than an experiential reality that transforms our thoughts and feelings about ourselves. As a result, we continue to look for love from other people in destructive ways. Bernard of Clairvaux, the great Christian leader in the twelfth century, spoke of how the love of God leads to healthy love of self. He called this the four degrees of love.1 1. Loving ourselves for our own sake. We want to avoid hell and go to heaven, so we do the right things such as attend church, pray, and tithe. When the threat of hell is removed, our spiritual life quickly dissipates. 2. Loving God for his gifts and blessings. We are happy with God as long as things are going well in our lives. When trials and setbacks begin, we become disappointed and withdraw from him. 3. Loving God for himself alone. At this stage, our love for God is not based on our feelings or our circumstances. We love and trust him for the beauty and goodness of who he is, not for what we can get out of him. We see our setbacks and sufferings as gifts to strengthen our faith and love for him. 4. Loving ourselves for the sake of God. At this fourth and highest level, the width, length, height, and depth of Christ’s love—a love that surpasses human knowledge—has now penetrated the depth of our being, setting us free from our need to borrow that love from others. The gospel frees us to understand who we are in the light of God’s love for us in Christ Jesus. We have value and significance but not for what we do or what others might say. We are “love worthy” because God loves us. God’s perfect love drives out any fears of what others think. We discover that his love, as the psalmist writes, is better than life (Psalm 63:3).”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Mentir y fingir son actos tan asociados a nosotros que casi no los notamos. Cada cultura y familia tiene su manera particular de dar rodeos, ocultar los hechos y evitar los momentos desagradables. Mentimos con las palabras. Mentimos con nuestra sonrisa. Mentimos con nuestro cuerpo. Mentimos con nuestro silencio. Y pensamos que no es grave porque «todo el mundo lo hace».”
― Geri Scazzero, La mujer emocionalmente sana: Cómo dejar de aparentar que todo marcha bien y experimentar un cambio de vida (Emotionally Healthy Spirituality)

“Mientras más afianzamos nuestra identidad en el amor de Dios, menos necesitamos la aprobación de los otros para sentirnos amados.”
― Geri Scazzero, La mujer emocionalmente sana: Cómo dejar de aparentar que todo marcha bien y experimentar un cambio de vida (Emotionally Healthy Spirituality)

“When did I feel most alive this past week? When did I feel the most life draining out of me?”4”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Todo dentro de nosotros rechaza el dolor asociado con morir, que es el requisito previo e innegociable para resucitar.”
― Geri Scazzero, La mujer emocionalmente sana: Cómo dejar de aparentar que todo marcha bien y experimentar un cambio de vida (Emotionally Healthy Spirituality)

“Overfunctioners prevent people, including themselves, from growing up.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“David is well-known for being a man after God’s own heart. Yet two-thirds of his psalms are laments or complaints.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Most of us believe conflict is a sign of something going wrong, but the reverse is often true. It may indicate that everything is going right.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“The person, surprisingly, who unconsciously lies in this story is Christina when she poses the question to Mike: “Do you like my haircut?” She is not asking an honest question. What she’s really trying to communicate is, “I’m scared and anxious that I may not look good. I want and need you to tell me I’m okay.” Christina’s question is in itself a lie.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“And, believe it or not, anger often comes bearing gifts. Through anger, God may help us discover what we really want, get us to pay attention to even deeper emotions, help us identify unmet expectations, and sometimes, see the folly of our sin.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“When I finally quit the lie that good Christians don't get angry, I walked through a door that changed my life.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Mi invitación al terminar es que tomes una decisión para tu vida como la que tomó Rosa Parks. Ella era una mujer afroamericana que vivía en el sur segregado de la década de 1950 y estaba cansada de pretender que todo estaba bien cuando no lo estaba. El autor cuáquero Parker J. Palmer recuerda su vida de la siguiente manera: El 1 de diciembre de 1955, en Montgomery, Alabama, Rosa Parks hizo algo que se suponía no debía hacer: se sentó delante en un autobús, en uno de los asientos reservados para los blancos; un acto peligroso, atrevido y provocativo en una sociedad racista. [Cuando le preguntaron:] «¿Por qué se sentó en la parte delantera del autobús ese día?», Rosa Parks no dijo que se sentó para iniciar un movimiento [ … ] Ella declaró: «Me senté porque estaba cansada». Quiso decir que su alma estaba cansada, su corazón estaba cansando, todo su ser estaba cansado14. Rosa Parks tomó la decisión ese día de no vivir nunca más dividida. No viviría más por fuera algo que contradijera la verdad de su integridad interior. Se negó a sonreír por fuera y llorar por dentro.”
― Geri Scazzero, La mujer emocionalmente sana: Cómo dejar de aparentar que todo marcha bien y experimentar un cambio de vida (Emotionally Healthy Spirituality)

“We embrace all our humanity, realizing that the more we ignore or suppress certain emotions, the more we are controlled by them.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“The day I admitted I wasn’t really a very loving person was the day I took a huge step toward becoming a loving person.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“The gospel frees us to understand who we are in the light of God’s love for us in Christ Jesus.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“I believed in Jesus as Lord and as the Christ. I enjoyed the love of God to a certain level, but it didn’t penetrate deeply enough to free me from being afraid of what others thought.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Being made in God’s image means we have inherent worth. We are sacred treasures, infinitely valuable as human beings apart from anything we do.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“In all of these situations, the consequences of looking to others rather than God for validation and approval were disastrous—”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Placing ourselves before the Mirror of Self-Confrontation means humbly acknowledging our shortcomings and the ways in which we are responsible for our own failures and disappointments.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Applying the Oxygen Mask of Self-Care means doing things that refresh you and give you life.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“If you don’t take responsibility for living your God-given life, it will not get lived. There is no one else in the world like you. No one! One of the greatest ways you honor and glorify God is through embracing your unrepeatable life.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Many people actually lie to God, only sharing with him what they think he wants to hear or what they ought to feel.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Since God is ultimate truth, I unwittingly exclude him from my life whenever I fail to live in truth.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“In the next chapter, we will explore what it means to live in the truth and be set free from lying to ourselves, to God, and to others.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“When it comes to quitting the approval of others, progress is best made with two daily practices: reflecting on the movements of your heart and reflecting on the love of God.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“Relying on the approval of others for our sense of self-worth is a direct contradiction of biblical truth.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life

“prefer time alone this evening, it is not against him. I love and enjoy his company. I simply must first recharge my emotional batteries in order to love him well.”
― Geri Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life