Too Much Quotes

“As far as emotions go, shame is the heaviest and can be the most devastating. Whatever the source, shame causes us to hold ourselves in low regard for being somehow different. The effects can be far-reaching, corrosive, and devastating. Shame has a much more toxic effect on our life when we don’t even realize that we’re carrying it.”
― Terri Cole, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency

“A clue that all is not well comes when I ask them how they feel and they honestly don’t know. In contrast, they almost never have a problem telling me what they think about things. Not knowing how or what we feel can be a sign of disassociation from our body and lived experiences and can be a sign of trauma. By staying in this pattern, we are unconsciously denying ourselves the full spectrum of our experiences and emotions by suppressing parts of ourselves that need our attention. Then, the pattern of tolerating mistreatment can get repeated in our careers, relationships, and friendships—and we have no idea why this trouble keeps following us around.”
― Terri Cole, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency

“I’d like to make a simple request,” or “Let’s be clear about who is taking responsibility for what,” you set up your relationships to succeed and yourself to feel seen, heard, valued, and loved.”
― Terri Cole, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency