I'm Sorry for My Loss Quotes

“You cannot feel empathy for people whose stories you never hear.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“It should not be a surprise that the states with the most extreme abortion-related bans are also the states where maternal health is the direst. According to the CDC, Arkansas’s maternal mortality rate is 43.5 per 100,000 births, followed closely by Mississippi at 43, then Alabama, Tennessee, Louisiana, Kentucky, and Georgia.22 Those states also have among the strictest abortion restrictions in the nation. (And their infant mortality rates are higher too, compared with the rest of the country.)23 So it’s not like these states are doing a great job caring for pregnant people and their newborns.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“It’s not good to micromanage the way that physicians provide healthcare in any sphere,” Duane told us. “But particularly in the sphere of pregnancy.”19 That’s because pregnancy is not black and white. One of Duane’s clients, Amanda Zurawski, said that she had gotten pregnant after grueling rounds of IVF, only to find that she had a condition called cervical insufficiency (see the language chapter one) that caused her water to break prematurely. She was told by several doctors the baby would not survive but that she’d have to wait until the baby’s cardiac activity stopped or until the ethics board at the hospital considered her life “at risk” enough for an abortion. She’d lost all the amniotic fluid—necessary for fetal survival—but it just didn’t matter.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“Most women who are currently fertile have never lived in a world without legal abortion, and many assumed it was settled law. (Though there were plenty screaming into the void that this was imminent as soon as Trump was elected. Feel free to scan Reddit for how often they were told to calm down. There goes that hysteria again.) Pregnant people embarking on pregnancy today are doing so in a world not encountered for half a century.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“We find it inconsistent that much of the pregnancy loss language is judgmental and accusatory until it involves a death, and then it’s all euphemisms and tiptoeing. Does America hate death more than it loves blaming women? Tough call.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“These conversations were almost sacred. Person after person shared their trauma, their grief, their hurt, their recommendations for how it can be better. Sometimes our friends and family would ask, “Isn’t it so sad to hear these stories day in and day out?” But it wasn’t. Yes, the stories are gut-wrenching, but there’s so much power in sharing them. You cannot feel empathy for people whose stories you never hear.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“This movement to delegitimize midwifery rose alongside Jim Crow laws, Hossain argues in The Pain Gap, with doctors and health officials linking midwifery to high rates of infant and maternal mortality as well as “illiteracy, carelessness and general filth.”13 A reliable, safe, supportive system of care was dismantled by politics, racism, and capitalism.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“From a medical perspective, miscarriage and abortion are the same, even if the language we use and the emotions associated with the two experiences are not. One key difference: Talking about your miscarriage won’t get you death threats.”33”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“Nobody should fear arrest or prosecution or the loss of any rights because of being pregnant,” Paltrow, who has since retired, told us. “But they ought to, because we are entering a new world order.”28”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America

“Writer and historian Daniela Blei put a fine point on it: “From a medical perspective, miscarriage and abortion are the same, even if the language we use and the emotions associated with the two experiences are not. One key difference: Talking about your miscarriage won’t get you death threats.”
― Rebecca Little, I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America