Raising Securely Attached Kids Quotes

“The formula for responding to our child’s internal state while redirecting their external choices goes like this: “I see you are feeling __________ and that you want __________. Those things are fun/nice/tasty. We can’t do __________ because of ____________, but let’s try ___________, which is a smarter/safer/healthier version of ___________, so that you can still feel ____________.”
― Eli Harwood MA LPC, Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

“The most profound gift we can give our children is our own growth.”
― Eli Harwood MA LPC, Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

“The capacity for self-soothing is born out of hundreds and hundreds of instances of being soothed by someone else.”
― Eli Harwood MA LPC, Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

“consistently by strangers in grocery stores over the years, it is this: “Cherish the sweet moments when your children are small because they are gone all too soon.”
― Eli Harwood MA LPC, Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

“We can’t control who our children are, but we can profoundly influence how they feel about who they are, and how they feel in relationships with us.”
― Eli Harwood MA LPC, Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

“We must contend with the truth that our children do not belong to us. Rather, our love belongs to them. And in belonging to them, our love goes with them, wherever they go.”
― Eli Harwood MA LPC, Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

“Yes, our children are the most beautiful gift that life gives to us, and they are also heat-seeking hovercrafts for wherever we are wounded, insecure, or clueless.”
― Eli Harwood MA LPC, Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience