But They're So Nice Quotes

“Enablers are, in many ways, accomplices, though their complicity may not always be apparent. When someone outside a relationship becomes aware of one person abusing another and opts to do nothing but continue extending friendship to the abuser, they essentially endorse the abusive behavior. Enablers often rationalize their inaction by claiming it's not their business, but I want to stress that it is.”
― Eleni Sagredos, But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People

“The metaphor of placing a frog in boiling water and turning up the heat slowly is often used to describe psychological and covert forms of abuse due to its gradual and insidious nature. Just as the frog may not notice the gradual increase in temperature until it's too late, victims of abuse often find themselves trapped in a toxic dynamic before fully realizing the extent of the damage. After the relationship they may also experience “delayed realization” a phenomena where the victim fails to recognize the severity of the abusive relationship until far after it’s ended.”
― Eleni Sagredos, But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People

“Healing takes time, patience, and self-compassion. Each step you take towards healing is significant, and progress may not always be linear. Trust your instincts, prioritize self-care, and surround yourself with a support system that uplifts and empowers you.”
― Eleni Sagredos, But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People

“So, it is not about the label; it is about acknowledging the abuse and working towards healing. By focusing on the core issue—the abuse itself—we can break free from the cycle, foster understanding, and arm ourselves with understanding so as to spot these behaviors moving forward.”
― Eleni Sagredos, But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People

“Trauma bonds often involve three key components: 1. A power imbalance where one person has more control
2. Intermittent positive and negative treatment leading to emotional addiction
3. Isolation from other support systems so the victim depends solely on the abuser”
― Eleni Sagredos, But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People