How Children Grieve Quotes

“We can miss our loved ones, we can remember them, we can identify with some of their characteristics and internalize these so that we carry part of them with us, and we can be sad from time to time when we especially miss them. And we can do this while we also move forward in our lives.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Sometimes a bereaved child will experience strange aches and pains, or they may feel persistently sad.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“He had died, but he was still with me- as a memory but also as a part of myself. I could imagine his voice and even what he might say to me- and this was both comforting and guiding.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Public schools in the United States are required to provide help for students who are experiencing difficulties that get in the way of learning.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Expressing feelings of confusion and sadness and sorrow and anger after loss is critical to recovery.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“She describes how important teachers are for children who have experienced a loss, and she says that what helped her were kind, caring, and compassionate words from her teachers.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“... try to return to the normal order of things to the extent possible as soon as you can. Regular mealtimes, homework times, and bedtimes can provide a sense of security for children.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Children need to know that others have suffered pain like their own and that they have survived it.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“They may adopt habits, interests, or personality traits of the lost parent or they may cherish a certain piece of furniture or clothing that was a favorite of their parent.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“I have such a hurricane in my soul.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“... in general, it can be very helpful for children and teens to find a way to be active in their grief rather than feeling like a passive victim who can do nothing.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“To help the children in the family, it is important to keep them updated in real time about the progress of the illness. Explain what is happening as it is happening. This is crucial because without information, the child cannot prepare herself for what is to come... Without such preparation, her mourning may be more complicated and more difficult to progress through later.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“It is important for the adults in the child's life to convey the message that loss if hard, but that we can sit with our sad feelings, we can feel them. and we can survive them.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Friends are the yardsticks against whom children measure themselves.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“The lost parent's voice may become part of the child's conscience, and this voice may define what the child understands as right and wrong. Some of the lost loved one's habits and characteristics may become part of the child's way of being.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“The loss of a parent is also particularly hard because the relationship between child and parent is the most critical of all formative relationships in a child's life. It is the wellspring from which love comes, and it is the model for all future relationships.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Having a safe space at school for the child to go when she is feeling particularly sad may also be helpful.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“They may attempt to keep up a good face and to proceed with life as if nothing has happened. At this age, children do not want to be different from their friends, and they often do not want to talk about their difficult feelings.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Children don't stop needing the people they lose, and they don't stop wanting them. Children continue to yearn for them, not just for the care they provided or the fun they had together, but for them- their presence, their companionship, their love.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“They may fear that crying will make them look babyish. They may also worry about being different from their friends.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“What friends are doing may at times be more important than what parents say. What is happening online, at school, and with friends becomes the focus of attention over family life.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“Loneliness is a painful part of grief, but it is also a natural one. We all feel alone at times, and the loss of a loved one brings this to our consciousness.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“When a parent, friend, or close grandparent is gone, it is common for children to retreat to their rooms.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving

“All children need someone to answer their questions and support their feelings in order to prevent them from keeping their grief frozen inside them.”
― Corinne Masur, How Children Grieve: What Adults Miss, and What They Can Do To Help: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, Therapists, and Caregivers to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, and Moving