Bisexuality Quotes

“For me, the gender of the person plays a part in my attraction to them. Seeing a very feminine woman or a very masculine man happens to be sexy to me for some reason. If their personality were switched into another body of a different sex, would I still find them as attractive? I’m not sure, and that’s why I think the bi label applies to me, because it’s not just the soul of the person I find hot, but how they display their gender identity is also hot.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“For all its faults, alcohol can provide some people with the courage their sober self just wouldn’t muster. Obviously, this question does come with a substance warning, and it should noted that there have been a few studies which conclude that bisexuals have disproportionate levels of substance abuse (Tobkes and Davidson, 2017).”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“I would go as far as to suggest that coming out later in life is slightly harder than doing it in your teen years. As an adult, you can often feel established as straight, and smashing that perception to everyone you know in pursuit of a sexuality that you don’t quite yet fully understand is completely terrifying. That’s why I think that the alcohol scenario is a common one. Bars and clubs lend themselves to anonymity. When people don’t know you, you can kiss someone and disappear; it won’t stay on your record forever.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“Many bisexuals have told me the same thing: that their sexual realization happened later in life, in a situation where alcohol had lowered their inhibitions and something that felt strangely natural happened.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“Yet, as always, bisexuals can blend in, even with themselves.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“I’ve discovered that it is common for bisexuals to be much older when they realize their sexuality. In my case, I grew up believing I was straight. I was attracted to women, and attraction to women was what the other boys talked about.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“It’s take your breath away anxiety levels. But just go for it! As bisexuals, we need to get better at not ruling ourselves out – the world is already doing that for us. If you’re attracted to someone, wait for them to tell you they aren’t interested; don’t just assume it and stay inside your little inadequate box.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“Many people don’t discuss the victimization bisexuals can suffer at the hands of other LGBTQ+ people. I’ve lost count of the number of gay men who have attacked my bisexuality over the years. People don’t realize how much this can hurt – to be rejected by your own tribe. For a gay-identifying man coming out as bisexual, there is a real fear, not just of being mocked by your chosen family but of being kicked out of the ‘gay tribe’ altogether. ‘You’re no longer one of us.’ ‘We are bound by our sexuality and we no longer share that sexuality.’ If you lost friends or family coming out as gay, you’ll be all the more nervous that coming out again could cost you even more this time around.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“The issue was that my brain didn’t even think that was an option.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“Looking back, as a teenager, I understood I was attracted to women. All the other boys were too. We talked about it, we kissed girls – it was behaviour that was normal. Being surrounded by straight men and doing straight things made me believe I was straight. But what of my attraction to men? Turns out, it was there. I just misinterpreted it. Looking back, it is now obvious there were boys at school I was attracted to, but at the time I mistook this for wanting to be like them or wanting to be best friends with them. Really, I just wanted to kiss them.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“If you don’t see something, or even know the word for it, it can be very hard to realize that you are it.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond

“Hopefully, the world is changing, but as many bi people will tell you, due to a long history of bi-erasure in the media and popular discourse, we never really saw bisexuality growing up.”
― Lewis Oakley, Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond