Finally The Bride Quotes

“He knows the day, the hour, the minute that something in particular needs to happen in our lives. He may not be early, but He’s never late.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Dear God: You said in Your Word that man is not meant to be alone. Seriously. You can look it up in Genesis 2:18. So, why do You insist I remain alone? Okay, so I realize I’m not a man. However, I think the spirit behind what You said about Adam included women. After all, when You didn’t want Adam to be alone, You created Eve. Did You know, when You said those words, many singles would throw them back in Your face in moments of frustrated isolation?               —Sincerely, Your Lonely Daughter Cheryl”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“If you’re in your thirties or early forties and still single, did you ever get tired of going to church and not fitting in anywhere? You were too old for the college and careers class, but you felt a little out of place in the forty-five and above singles class. No offense to them! It was a great class and I knew some great people there, but I just felt like I didn’t really fit anywhere.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“If you choose to surrender your pen to God, you will probably face the odd looks and stares from your friends or family members who won’t understand your choices. They may think you’re not doing enough to “make this happen” on your own.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Save your heart the additional pain and keep your friendships with guys from becoming emotional attachments, if there is no pursuit for your heart.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“There’s nothing more frustrating than being in pain over the loss of a candidate and finding yourself surrounded by people ten years younger who are already married.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“#9 Hazard of Singlehood: Facing Love Interests Who Are Now With Others”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Many churches skip our demographic and offer us nothing. They go from the college and career group to the young marrieds. They forget that many these days are in their thirties and forties, yet alone. Mother’s Day can also be a hot button for some women who desire children.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“I’m so sick of my life. The chapter I want doesn’t get written. I’m always stuck in the “wait” chapter.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“amazing how quickly Satan can use what’s supposed to be a blessing and a gift from God to derail you into a place where you’re thankless for the gift. You focus on what you don’t have instead.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“WHY IT’S BAD TO BE SINGLE: (An itemized list of undisputable evidence)   1. Outside my parents and my sister and her family, I have no family or children of my own.   2. I have no immediate support system to come home to, when life throws its challenges and curveballs.   3. I’m lonely.   4. I have no one to go to parties or special events with. When big events happen—even when they’re good—I walk in alone.   5. I never get to take advantage of the “two people can combine resources and live together cheaper than apart” deal.    6. No one loves me.  (My mother’s love doesn’t count in this case. Sorry, Mom!)   7. There’s this constant question about many guys I meet: is he the one? Is he worth dating? The search feels never-ending.   8. There’s the continuing heartbreak of liking guys who have no interest in me. (This happens a lot!)   9. I can be selfish sometimes because there isn’t that person to care for daily, whose needs are above my own (spouse or children).   10. There isn’t anyone to cuddle with, enjoy affections with, sleep beside (or let’s be honest—have sex with).”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“I have to face that my singleness right now is God’s choice,”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“God, why don’t you just hang a sign on my head that reads ‘never the choice’?”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Can’t You get just ONE GUY to love me? You know this is the position I have been in my entire life. Unloved. Unknown. Not chosen.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Seriously, God! Did You have to choose me as the poster child for the single-and-waiting-on-God girl?”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“I’ve prayed countless prayers to God saying, “Please take this desire away.” But He hasn’t! I even asked, “Just take the desire away until you’re ready to give it to me. Hold it in a box. Duct tape it closed for later because I don’t want to desire anything that you don’t have for me right now! It hurts too much.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Have you had stretches of time where dating or serious relationships were nonexistent?”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Our marital status is not an indicator of our worth or lovability,”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“WHY I AM STILL SINGLE: (According to lies I tell myself)   1. I am not worth the trouble because of my imperfections.   2. I am not lovable.   3. I am not pretty enough.   4. A guy has to be drunk to be attracted to me.   5. I’m too old, even for guys my age, who want women ten years younger.   6. Another woman will always be there to take a guy’s attention off me.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“I Must Be Defective         FAVORITE REASONS I’M STILL SINGLE: (According to others)   1. God must think I’m not ready or mature enough for marriage.    2. If I didn’t want to be married, then maybe God could bless me with a husband.   3. I refuse to sign up for online dating sites. (If you wonder why, see reason #4.)   4. I refuse to go out with anyone who isn’t known well by people I know and trust.   5. I never call anyone who leaves a note on my car at Target that reads, “If you are single, I’d love to get to know you better.” (If you wonder why, reread reason #4.)   6. My spiritual standards are too high. If a guy believes in Jesus, that should be enough.   7. I’m not trying hard enough to make something happen.   8. I’m way too independent. (The fact that I have no choice but to take care of myself seems irrelevant!)   9. I say no to blind dates with men twenty years older than me.   10. I don’t always pluck my eyebrows.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“why do I struggle with believing God will deliver on the promise of a husband and a family?”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“make sure the compromises you make are ones God is truly asking you to make and that it’s not just your impatience kicking in. Especially be wary as your age creeps up. You may be tempted to say “yes” to the wrong person because you don’t want to wait any longer.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“I have been overlooked many times by men—including godly Christian men—because I don’t fit a physical profile.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“8. Surrender means trusting Him.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“There are some people, I realize, who may not be called to marriage. I can’t say with certainty that every person who wants to be married will be. Only God knows what He intends for each of us.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“Surrendering the Pen to God   Cheryl’s Journal (June 18, 1994) Cheryl’s prayer: There must be a reason, Lord, that You want me alone. You must be shaping me for something. I’ll be honest. I’m sick of it, but as I always say, You know best. I know it will be special when You, my Lord, finally bless me with marriage and a family. My future is in Your hands. Lord, I don’t know where it’s headed, but I’d like for You to use me for Your sake and glory. God’s reply: Trust in Me. Take it day by day. Trust that I know what I’m doing. Be patient. Place your security in Me, not in others. Know who you are, firmly grounded in Me first. Then you are free to share your life with someone else. It’s a gift. I am the Creator of love. I don’t always work in ways expected. Stay open. Receive from Me what I have for you. Cheryl’s prayer: It’s not worth accepting a gift from You, God, if I lose You and me in that gift. God’s reply: Your desire is a natural desire. Yet, like everything else, it must fall into place by My timing, not yours.”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting

“When do my stories get to change?”
― Cheryl McKay, Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting