What Makes Love Last? Quotes

“So when you perceive a positive quality in yourself, turn Fritz Heider’s Fundamental Attribution Error on its ear and assume that your partner possesses it too.”
― John M. Gottman, What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal

“With the exception of the guilt-ridden and self-critical among us, we all like to think we are the central character of the Great Play of Life. Everyone else is cast in minor and supporting roles. As a result, we tend to forgive our own mistakes, but not those of others. This perspective clearly stands in the way of resolving relationship conflict.”
― John M. Gottman, What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal

“Passion is the state that arises when you nurture a strong and at times almost obsessive interest in your partner that includes desire, curiosity, and attraction.”
― John M. Gottman, What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal

“therefore define romance as the state that occurs when two people both nurture and encourage acts and thoughts that cherish the other as unique and irreplaceable.”
― John M. Gottman, What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal