The Places That Scare You Quotes

“Always meditate on whatever provokes resentment”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“WHEN I TEACH, I begin with a compassionate aspiration. I express the wish that we will apply the teachings in our everyday lives and thus free ourselves and others from suffering.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“No lasting happiness comes from being caught in this cycle of attraction and aversion. We can never get life to work out so that we eliminate everything we fear and end up with all the goodies. Therefore the warrior-bodhisattva cultivates equanimity, the vast mind that doesn’t narrow reality into for and against, liking and disliking.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“This is our link with all those who have ever loved. This genuine heart of sadness can teach us great compassion.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“I learned today that life is very precious. Even when we’re determined to block the magic, it will get through and wake us up.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“A fresh attitude starts to happen when we look to see that yesterday was yesterday, and now it is gone; today is today and now it is new. It is like that—every hour, every minute is changing. If we stop observing change, then we stop seeing everything as new. —DZIGAR KONGTRUL RINPOCHE”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“With unfailing kindness, your life always presents what you need to learn.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“maitri, a simple, direct relationship with the way we are.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“At the end of the talk, I dedicate the merit of the occasion to all beings. This gesture of universal friendship has been likened to a drop of fresh springwater. If we put it on a rock in the sunshine, it will soon evaporate. If we put it in the ocean, however, it will never be lost. Thus the wish is made that we not keep the teachings to ourselves but use them to benefit others.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“When we’re thinking that we’re competent or that we’re hopeless—what are we basing it on? On this fleeting moment? On yesterday’s success or failure? We cling to a fixed idea of who we are and it cripples us.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“Beliefs and ideals have become just another way to put up walls.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“We are all children of the Great Spirit, we all belong to Mother Earth. Our planet is in great trouble and if we keep carrying old grudges and do not work together, we will all die. —CHIEF SEATTLE”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“The far enemy or opposite of compassion is cruelty. When we reach the limit of how much suffering we can take, we sometimes use cruelty as a defense against our fear of pain. This is common for anyone who was abused as a child. Instead of feeling kindness for those who are defenseless and weak, we can feel an irrational desire to hurt them. We protect our vulnerability and fear by hardening. If we do not recognize that by doing this we hurt ourselves as much as we hurt others, we’ll never get free. Booker T. Washington was right when he said, “Let no man pull you so low as to make you hate him.” Cruelty when rationalized or unacknowledged destroys us.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“The Four Limitless Ones Chant May all sentient beings enjoy happiness and the root of happiness. May they be free from suffering and the root of suffering. May they not be separated from the great happiness devoid of suffering. May they dwell in the great equanimity free from passion, aggression, and prejudice.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“When we practice discipline with flexibility, we become less moralistic and more tolerant.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“six ways of compassionate living: generosity, discipline, patience, enthusiasm, meditation, and prajna—unconditional wisdom.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“The first kind of laziness, comfort orientation, is based on our tendency to avoid inconvenience. We want to take a rest, to give ourselves a break.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“Booker T. Washington was right when he said, “Let no man pull you so low as to make you hate him.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“This is the path we take in cultivating joy: learning not to armor our basic goodness, learning to appreciate what we have.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“The joy comes from not giving up on ourselves, from mindfully sticking with ourselves and beginning to experience our great warrior spirit.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“When we practice generating compassion, we can expect to experience our fear of pain. Compassion practice is daring.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“if we look below the surface of the aggression, we’ll generally find fear. There’s something beneath the solidity of anger that feels very raw and sore.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“It is only when we begin to relax with ourselves that meditation becomes a transformative process. Only when we relate with ourselves without moralizing, without harshness, without deception, can we let go of harmful patterns.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“We can use meditation to reinforce our false beliefs: it will protect us from discomfort; it will fix us; it will fulfill our hopes and remove our fears. This happens because we don’t properly understand why we are practicing.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“The problem isn’t with the beliefs themselves but with how we use them to get ground under our feet, how we use them to feel right and to make someone else wrong,”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“Finding the courage to go to the places that scare us cannot happen without compassionate inquiry into the workings of ego.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“Buddha: Hatred never ceases by hatred But by love alone is healed.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“We can begin anything we do—start our day, eat a meal, or walk into a meeting—with the intention to be open, flexible, and kind.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“Como Albert Einstein señaló, la tragedia de sentirnos separados de los demás reside en que esta ilusión acaba convirtiéndose en una prisión. Pero lo que es más triste aún es que la posibilidad de ser libres nos turba cada vez más. Cuando se abren las barreras, no sabemos qué hacer. Necesitamos que nos prevengan un poco más sobre lo que se siente cuando los muros empiezan a derrumbarse. Necesitamos que nos digan que tener miedo y temblar forma parte del crecimienton personal y que el desapego requiere valor.”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

“Pero bajo la dureza de esta armadura, se oculta la terneza de una genuina tristeza”
― Pema Chödrön, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times