The Twentysomething Treatment Quotes

“Discomfort is a part of life, the reverend went on to say. Maybe that discomfort is an itchy nose, or back pain, or a broken heart. Mindfulness is not about getting rid of discomfort; it is about accepting discomfort.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“If you want to have a friend, you’ve got to be a friend,” I told Sally in a similar session. “What would you like a friend to do for you?”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“casual friendships develop after spending around 50 hours together, close friendships after around 100 hours, and best friendships after around 150 hours or more. Yet, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, American adults spend only about 30 minutes per day socializing during the week and about an hour per day on the weekend. Compare this to the three hours per day we spend watching television or the several hours a day twentysomethings routinely spend on their devices. In fact, as of 2023, nearly half of young adults say they spend more time socializing online than they do in person. So, maybe we have more time for friendships than we think we do.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“Friends are the people who teach us that good relationships—and good jobs—aren’t just one mistake away from ending. Good friendships show us what good, chosen relationships are.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“The liking gap is the now well-documented tendency we all have to underestimate how much people like us. Yet another instance of negativity bias, the liking gap is taking uncertain social encounters—a party, an interview, a conversation—and imagining they’re worse than they are.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“2022 study showed on MRI brain scans that, while a mother’s voice activates the reward center in a child’s brain, by late adolescence it is unfamiliar voices that grab our interest most.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“but there’s also a default mode in your life. It’s what you revert to when you don’t have to get out and do something else.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“I surrounded myself with the smartest classmates and co-workers I could find. I used uncertainty to my advantage, and that’s how I got better at what I was doing. That’s how I figured out what I liked and what I was good at. That’s how, eventually, I became sure of myself and of who I am.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“Growth and stress often go together because if we are going to learn how to do new things, we have to engage with things we don’t yet know how to”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“No one can plan for recessions, or pandemics, or inflation, or wars, or technological advances, or downsizing. What we can do, however, is acquire skills that no person or circumstance can take away.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“So, your learning curve in your twenties predicts your earning curve in your thirties and beyond—and it’s not just about the money.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“maybe your worst-case scenario isn’t even a worst case. It’s just a case.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“They’re also the single most commonly used prescription drug of any kind among adults ages 20 to 59. This has not always been the”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“Uncertainty can be your friend, and friends aren’t just people we put up with. We have adventures with them. We throw our arms around them. Our lives are better because they’re a part of them. The same is true for unknowns.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age

“We might think we want to banish unknowns, but research shows if life goes as planned, it winds up being only satisfactory. For life to exceed our expectations, we have to venture into the unexpected.”
― Meg Jay, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age