The Surrendered Single Quotes

“I wasn’t used to sweet so it made me uncomfortable”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“there are some similarities between the way you approach finding love and the way you would look for a job. When you want a new job, you admit it. You network. People give you leads. You follow up on every one. You leave the dead ends behind, always cordially, and don’t look back.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Myth: “If I admit I’m lonely, even to myself, I’ll seem desperate.” Reality: Loneliness and desperation are different. Loneliness says, “I’d like to be with someone else. I crave companionship, romance, and intimacy.” Desperation says, “I can’t stand being alone and my self-respect is low. I will take anyone, even if I know he’s not right for me.” Loneliness is not undignified. It’s a natural human emotion that we all feel at times.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“When I was dating, I told myself that I didn’t want to get married. The dialogue between me and myself was an elaborate way of avoiding my fear of divorce. Yet my loneliness and desire for a partner were acute. I wasn’t so much “embracing the single life” as I was trying to avoid future pain.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Denying what you want is a way of controlling your desires so that you can ward off the fear, disappointment, and humiliation.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Finally, taking time for yourself is a fundamental part of surrendering. Long walks, dinners with your girlfriends, journal writing—or just cuddling up on the couch with a book or a romantic movie helps you to hear your own heart. When you do, urgency and desperation are replaced with confidence.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Vulnerability will draw me to someone in a way that appearing invincible never could. That’s because I identify with the humanity and authenticity. To appear perfect is to keep up your defenses, which means others can’t see and love the real you.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Keeping your checklist is a way to stay invulnerable.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Vulnerability makes us approachable and attractive, because it’s a gift to the person we’re with. It’s an unspoken compliment that says, “I trust you to be gentle when I put down my armor. I feel safe with you.” When someone gives me such a gift, my instinct is to be tender so as to reassure her that I understand the honor.”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M

“Cynicism is not realistic and tough. It’s unrealistic and kind of cowardly? because it means you don’t have to try. —PEGGY NOONAN”
― Laura Doyle, The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the M