The Best Care Possible Quotes

“The healthiest response to death is to love, honor, and celebrate life.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Often when a physician cannot imagine what else to do for someone who is feeling helpless and hopeless—for whom life has no value—I find that love is the answer.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Basic elements of human care underpin how we regard and respond to others—our ethics as people become sicker and more physically dependent: Shelter from the elements. A caring society metaphorically says to the frail or dying person, “We will keep you warm and dry.” Help with personal hygiene. The community reassures the person who is too frail to care for himself or herself, “We will keep you clean.” Assistance with elimination. Family or, on behalf of society, clinicians (typically nurses or nurse aides), say, “We will help you with your bowels and bladder function.” Provision of food and drink. We can say, “We will always offer you something to eat and drink—and help you to do it.” Keeping company. Society can say to people who are dying, especially those who are “unbefriended,” “We will be with you. You will not have to go through this time in your life entirely alone.” Alleviating suffering. Certainly today, society can say, “We will do whatever we can, with as much skill and expertise as available, to lessen your discomfort.” Yet it is only this final element that is dependent on clinical expertise.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“even a person who decides to forgo treatment does not necessarily choose death. Rather, he chooses life without the burden of disproportionate medical intervention.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“some accuse hospice and palliative care clinicians of promoting a “culture of death” when we allow dying people to leave this life gently, without subjecting them to CPR or mechanical ventilation or dialysis or medical nutrition.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Sometimes God Calms the Storm…Sometimes He Lets the Storm Rage and Calms His Child.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“for what it is worth, when people have been fighting cancer for a long time, as you have, there often comes a point at which they may live longer if they decide to live with their cancer rather than continue to fight against their cancer.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“In living with, rather than relentlessly fighting their cancer, they ultimately live longer.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Dying doesn’t cause suffering. Resistance to dying does.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“month after Jeanne died, Michelle received a bill for her mother’s twenty-three-hour hospitalization. It totaled $22,402. (Adjusted for inflation, the amount would exceed $27,000 in 2012.) The bill included $6,750 for twenty-two separate blood tests, $1,077 for three electrocardiograms, $4,187 for a CAT scan of her head, $776 for three X-rays of her abdomen, $296 for a chest X-ray, and $3,246 for three ultrasound tests.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Reiki looks like touch-less massage. The person performing Reiki holds his or her hands on or just above the surface of a person’s body and, with motions of hand and arms, moves energy to or from places that hurt and places that need healing. As far as I know, Reiki has no scientific basis and is not billed for or paid. But for many people, it works. They feel better after having it and often ask to have it performed again. This may very well be the purest form of the placebo effect: one person’s healing intention causing a therapeutic effect in another. All the more reason to recommend it. People love it and I have yet to hear of any dangerous side effects.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“To fully and authentically affirm life, we must affirm all of life, including dying, death, and grief.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“TAKING THE LONG VIEW, we are still a young civilization and our culture is a work in progress. In our policies, programs, and plans for caring for people through the end of life, we have been acting childishly: ignoring basic responsibilities, indulging in magical thinking (If we ignore it, maybe it will go away), and fighting without regard to the consequences.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“The large majority wanted to be at home at the end of life, only 1 percent said they would prefer being in a hospital, and not a single participant wanted to be in a nursing home at the end of life.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“More than 80 percent of participants at these community forums indicated it was very important or extremely important to have their dignity respected, preferences honored, pain controlled, and not to leave family with debt.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“social connections are often as important as medical treatment in preventing physical, mental, and functional decline.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“It is morally and legally okay to show genuine concern for other people.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“The Careless Society: Community and Its Counterfeits, sociologist John McKnight”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“A good working relationship with the doctor and health care team of the person being cared for is probably the single most important thing that caregivers need.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Caring for someone who is physically or cognitively frail is physically and emotionally exhausting. Caregivers often feel isolated and are at high risk for depression, anxiety, and physical illness. This”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Medicare would not pay for more basic “life support,” such as someone to help Mr. St. Pierre to get up and dressed each day, to bathe him a few times a week, or to prepare his meals. These things were not health care, and Medicare and insurance guidelines make clear that only health care is covered.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“If a problem cannot be solved, enlarge it.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“After his liver transplant in April 2009, visionary Apple CEO Steve Jobs lived two and a half years,”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“In managing pain, I teach patients a 0-to-10 scale so they can rate and record pain at different times of day, with various activities, and in response to medications and other treatments. And I review with people common descriptors of different types of pain—dull, achy, sharp, stabbing, cramping, tearing or burning, shooting, tingling, and pins and needles—that provide information to doctors about possible causes and specific treatments.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Dying is the most universal and arguably most difficult of life events. Pretty much by definition, dying people are as sick as they have ever been.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“there are ways of controlling the discomfort bowel obstructions cause without surgery, but doing so would take palliative care expertise of the sort that a hospice program provides.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“she had a life-threatening illness and was too ill to speak for herself, she did not want any invasive measures to prolong her life: no surgery, no CPR, no mechanical ventilation, no artificial nutrition and hydration.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“Oncologists tend to start with the most effective chemotherapy they have for a patient’s cancer. Second-, third-, and fourth-line treatments may be less effective or carry more side effects. When cancer grows despite chemotherapy or when it recurs, the situation may become one of diminishing returns on a person’s investment of limited time and energy. Since most chemotherapy affects normal cells as well as cancer cells, these medications can take a toll on one’s general health—something I know you know all too well.” “I know this in my head, Dr. Byock,” Paul”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“discussion. It now seemed possible that team-based palliative care extended life to a degree comparable to newer immune-based chemotherapy drugs that may cost $6,000 to $10,000 per month and can cause rashes, bleeding, infection, and other life-threatening side effects. In contrast, team-based palliative care for a patient and family typically costs several hundred dollars per month and does not cause rashes, bleeding, or infections.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life

“hospice care would be assigned to them and while they would see that nurse most frequently, hospice care entailed a team—very much like our palliative care team, which they had come to know—with a physician, chaplain, social worker, and even volunteer visitors.”
― Ira Byock, The Best Care Possible: A Physician's Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life