Your Erroneous Zones Quotes

“Acceptance means no complaining, and happiness means no complaining about the things over which you can do nothing.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Love is a word that has as many definitions as there are people to define it. Try this one on for size. The ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Feelings are not just emotions that happen to you. Feelings are reactions you choose to have.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“The essence of greatness is the ability to choose personal fulfillment in circumstances where others choose madness.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Sören Kierkegaard wrote, “Once you label me, you negate me.” When the individual must live up to the label, the self ceases to exist. The same is true of self-labels. You could be negating yourself by identifying with your trademarks, rather than your own potential for growth.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“You are not necessarily what you say. Behavior is a much better barometer of what you are than words. What you do in your present moments is the only indicator of what you are as a person.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“There are two days in the week about which and upon which I never worry. Two carefree days, kept sacredly free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is yesterday…and the other day I do not worry about is tomorrow.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Syllogism ―
Major premise: I can control my thoughts.
Minor premise: My feelings come from my thoughts.
Conclusion: I can control my feelings.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“There are two occasions when complaining is least appreciated in the world: (1) Whenever you tell someone else that you are tired. (2) Whenever you tell someone else that you don’t feel well. If you are tired, you can exercise several options, but complaining to even one poor soul, let alone a loved one, is abusing that person. And it won’t make you less tired. The same kind of logic applies to your “not feeling well.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Once you can change your thoughts, your new feelings will begin to emerge, and you will have taken the first step on the road to your personal freedom.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“A truer barometer of intelligence is an effective, happy life lived each day and each present moment of every day.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Your worth is determined by you, and with no need for an explanation to anyone. And your worthiness, a given, has nothing to do with your behavior and feelings. You may not like your behavior in a given instance, but that has nothing to do with your self-worth. You can choose to be worthy to yourself forever, and then get on with the task of working on your self-images.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“This road will be new because you will see a given emotion as a choice rather than a condition of life.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“A relationship based on love, as was said earlier, is one in which each partner allows the other to be what he chooses, with no expectations and no demands.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“It is easy to be a critic, but being a doer requires effort, risk and change.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Remind yourself that what other people do is not what bothers you, it’s your reaction to it. Instead of saying “They shouldn’t do that,” say, “I wonder why I bother myself with what they are doing.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Nothing is more important than anything else. The child collecting seashells is not doing something more right or wrong than the President of General Motors making a major corporate decision.

They are different. Nothing more!”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“There is nothing to worry about! Absolutely nothing. You can spend the rest of your life, beginning right now, worrying about the future, and no amount of your worry will change a thing. Remember that worry is defined as being immobilized in the present as a result of things that are going or not going to happen in the future. You must be careful not to confuse worrying with planning for the future.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“The best thing for being sad,” replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, “is to learn something. That is the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honor trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then—to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the thing for you. Look at what a lot of things there are to learn—pure science, the only purity there is. You can learn astronomy in a lifetime, natural history in three, literature in six. And then, after you have exhausted a million lifetimes in biology and medicine and theocriticism and geography and history and economics, why, you can start to make a cartwheel out of the appropriate wood, or spend fifty years learning to begin to learn to beat your adversary at fencing. After that you can start again on mathematics until it is time to learn to plough.”*”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Self-worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value it is other-worth.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“You can paralyze yourself with perfectionistic do-your-best nonsense.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Instead of hating yourself, develop positive feelings. Learn from the error, and resolve not to repeat it but don’t associate it with your self-worth.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Give up having to have a reason for everything you do. When someone asks you why, remember that you don’t have to come up with a reasonable answer that will satisfy them. You can do what you decide just because you want to.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Guilt is the most useless of all erroneous zone behaviors. It is by far the greatest waste of emotional energy. Why? Because, by definition, you are feeling immobilized in the present over something that has already taken place, and no amount of guilt can ever change history.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Here is the guts of both self-and other-directed love. Never confuse your self-worth (which is a given) with your behavior, or the behavior of others toward you.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Guilt is not merely a concern with the past; it is a present-moment immobilization about a past event. And the degree of immobilization can run from mild upset to severe depression. If you are simply learning from your past, and vowing to avoid the repetition of some specific behavior, this is not guilt. You experience guilt only when you are prevented from taking action now as a result of having behaved in a certain way previously. Learning from your mistakes is healthy and a necessary part of growth. Guilt is unhealthy because you are ineffectively using up your energy in the present feeling hurt, upset and depressed about a historical happening. And it’s futile as well as unhealthy. No amount of guilt can ever undo anything.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Frequently avoidance of the present leads to idealization of the future... When an event does not live up to your expectations you can get out of the depression by idealizing again. Do not let this vicious circle become your life-style. Interrupt it now with some strategic present-moment fulfillment.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“The ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“If your life is better, it is because you have done something constructive to make it better.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones

“Begin to view the past as something that can never be changed, despite how you feel about it. It’s over! And any guilt that you choose will not make the past different. Emblazon this sentence on your consciousness. “My feeling guilty will not change the past, nor will it make me a better person.” This sort of thinking will help you to differentiate guilt from learning as a result of your past.”
― Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones