Forgive for Good Quotes

“forgiveness helps people control their emotions so they maintain good judgment. They do not waste precious energy trapped in anger and hurt over things they can do nothing about. Forgiveness acknowledges we can’t change the past. Forgiveness allows us not to stay stuck in the past.”
― Frederic Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Forgiveness is the practice of extending your moments of peacefulness. Forgiveness is deciding what plays on your TV screen. Forgiveness is the power that comes from knowing a past injustice does not have to hurt today. When we have good experiences, such as moments of beauty or love, then for those moments we have forgiven those who have hurt us. Forgiveness is the choice to extend those moments to the rest of our life. Forgiveness is available anytime. It is completely under your control. It does not rely on the actions of others; it is a choice you alone can make.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Forgiveness is the powerful assertion that bad things will not ruin your today even though they may have spoiled your past.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“hurt and anger are meant to be fleeting emotions, not permanent fixtures.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“WHAT FORGIVENESS IS NOT Forgiveness is not condoning unkindness. Forgiveness is not forgetting that something painful happened. Forgiveness is not excusing poor behavior. Forgiveness does not have to be an otherworldly or religious experience. Forgiveness is not denying or minimizing your hurt. Forgiveness does not mean reconciling with the offender. Forgiveness does not mean you give up having feelings.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“WHAT IS FORGIVENESS? Forgiveness is the peace you learn to feel when you allow these circling planes to land. Forgiveness is for you and not the offender. Forgiveness is taking back your power. Forgiveness is taking responsibility for how you feel. Forgiveness is about your healing and not about the people who hurt you. Forgiveness is a trainable skill just like learning to throw a baseball. Forgiveness helps you get control over your feelings. Forgiveness can improve your mental and physical health. Forgiveness is becoming a hero instead of a victim. Forgiveness is a choice. Everyone can learn to forgive.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“I asked Jeremy if his boss was really worth the ruining of so many days in the last eight weeks.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“our thought process played a significant role in experiencing anger and hurt. As we challenge our rules, we see in day-to-day life how clear thinking leads to peaceful experience. In”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. MARCUS ANTONIUS”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“in each and every moment we have the choice to determine what we see, hear, and experience.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“not lose sight of the good things in our life. This sounds simple but takes some effort. What this means is we spend time and energy finding the beauty and love in our life”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Often we forget that forgiveness is for us and not the offender. Forgiveness in no way condones cruelty or unkind treatment. Forgiveness gives us back peace of mind.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“the three preconditions needed before we are ready to forgive. These three preconditions are simple, and most people reading this book will have already satisfied them: Know what your feelings are about what happened. Be clear about the action that wronged you. Share your experience with at least one or two trusted people.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“most powerful way to heal is through forgiveness. When we forgive, we take something less personally, blame the person who hurt us less, and change our grievance story. Through learning the process of forgiveness, we can forgive anyone who has hurt us in any way.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“When we choose forgiveness we release our past to heal our present.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Good-nature and good sense must ever join; To err is human, to forgive, divine. ALEXANDER POPE”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“We recruited people unable to forgive their spouses for cheating on them or for having alcohol or drug problems, their best friends for abandoning them, their parents for mistreating them, business partners for lying to them, or siblings for not caring about them.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“learning to forgive helped people in a variety of ways. Forgiveness is a complex experience that changes an offended person’s spiritual feelings, emotions, thoughts, actions, and self-confidence level. I believe learning to forgive the hurts and grudges of our life may be an important step for us to feel more hopeful and spiritually connected and less depressed.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Higher levels of hope have been shown to help people deal successfully with pain and some forms of illness.13 Optimistic people live longer and have fewer illnesses.14 Spiritually minded people cope better with loss and illness.15 Depression is a risk factor for heart disease and may predict who will leave the hospital alive after a heart attack.16 A recent study showed that depressed people are at significantly greater risk of a stroke.17”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“the power of forgiveness was wasted when applied to only the worst aspects of our lives. Why just forgive an abusive parent or an alcoholic spouse and find peace? Why not learn to forgive the daily hassles and problems we all face? Why not forgive everything that does not go our way? I saw that forgiving smaller offenses would be good practice in forgiving life’s higher hurdles. I decided to teach people to forgive all sorts of things to bring more peace into their lives.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“forgiveness was more about one’s present life than one’s past. The goal of forgiveness training was to reduce pain and suffering so people could move on in their lives. I understood that it is only in the present that anyone can feel better. For”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“The third benefit from forgiveness emerges as we give more love and care to the important people in our lives. I know from my own experience and those of many others that hurts from the past often cause us to draw away and mistrust the very people who are trying to love us. Too often the people who suffer from our grievances are not the people who hurt us but those who care for us today. If we rent too much space to what went wrong, where is the space to appreciate the good in our lives? If we”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“We forget how many people may be helped through our example of forgiveness.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Stages of becoming a forgiving person
In the first stage of becoming a forgiving person, people experience a loss in their life, feel angry or hurt, and tend to justify their negative emotions. At this stage of forgiveness you are filled with self-justified anger or hurt.

At the second stage you choose forgiveness once in order to hurt less.

At the third stage you choose it daily to hurt less.

At the forth stage you become forgiving so your choice is already made.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“My challenge is to teach you to reprogram your remote control. I want you to program your remote to regularly tune in to the gratitude, beauty, love, and forgiveness channels.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Forgiveness is the felling of peace that emerges as you take your hurt less personally, take responsibility for how you feel, and become a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Here is a brief test to help you determine whether the story you have been telling to yourself and others is a grievance story.
1. Have you told your story more than twice to the same person?
2. Do you replay the events that happened more than two times in a day in your mind?
3. Do you find yourself speaking to the person who hurt you even when that person is not there?
4. Have you made a commitment to yourself to tell the story without upset and then found yourself unexpectedly agitated?
5. is the person who hurt you the central character of your story?
6. When you tell this story, does it remind you of other painful things that have happened to your?
7. Does your story focus primarily on your pain and what you have lost?
8. in your story is there a villain?
9. Have you made a commitment to yourself to not tell your story and and then broken you vow?
10. Do you look for other people with similar problems to tell you story to?
11. Has your story stared the same over time?
12. Have you checked the details of your story for accuracy?”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Forgiveness is the feeling of peace that emerges as you take your hurt less personally, take responsibility for how you feel, and become a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell.”
― Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

“Dr. Luskin lifts forgiveness out of the purely psychological and religious domains and anchors it in science, medicine, and health. This book is vitally needed.” —Larry Dossey, M.D., author of Healing Words “Simply the best book on the subject, adding sophistication and depth to our instinctive but sometimes uncertain understanding of how forgiveness heals both those forgiven and those who forgive. Luskin’s research also shows how modern psychology can enrich traditional moral teachings. His book will stand as a modern classic in psychology.” —Michael Murphy, cofounder of the Esalen Institute and author of Future of the Body “Combining groundbreaking research with a proven methodology, Forgive for Good is an accessible and practical guide to learning the power of forgiveness.” —John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus “Straightforward, sincere, and essential.” —Dave Pelzer, author of A Child Called It and Help Yourself “A rare and marvelous book—warm, loving, solidly researched, and wise. It could change your life.” —George Leonard, author of Mastery and president of the Esalen Institute “Dr. Luskin’s wise and clinically astute methods for finding forgiveness could not be more timely … a sure-handed guide through the painful emotions of hurt, sadness and anger towards a resolution that makes peace with the past, soothes the present, and liberates the future.”
― Frederic Luskin, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness