The Emotionally Absent Mother Quotes

“It is not easy to give of yourself if you still have many unmet needs. Yet, mothering requires constant giving.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second): How to Recognize ... Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

“the quality of the mothering we receive so powerfully shapes our development.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second): How to Recognize ... Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

“Most common, it seems, with mothers who are emotionally shut down and disengaged is simply to continue a superficial relationship. This is a relationship with minimal contact, which stays on the surface, one which never was and never will be close. This fits for those adult children who don’t want to hurt mother or lose family contacts and aren’t actively being hurt as long as they maintain an emotional distance. With mothers who were intrusive or enmeshed or overly helpless, moving into a more boundaried relationship with less contact may be a new move, intended to protect you from the ongoing hurt that you experience in the relationship. It is a demotion of sorts for Mother as it moves her out of your inner circle where she had too much influence.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

“We’re more able to do the therapeutic work involved in grieving old wounds, uncovering core beliefs, and establishing new ways of being. Having relationships that create new, healthier patterns can change our expectations and attitudes and give us a new foundation from which to work.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

“It is not easy to give of yourself if you still have many unmet needs.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second): How to Recognize ... Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect

“Ebeveynlerinin gelişimsel kısıtlamalarının ne kadar büyük olduğunu fark etmeyen ve duygusal açıdan olgunlaşmamış kişilerin çocuklarının birçoğu, ebeveynin içinde gizlenen, tamamıyla gelişmiş gerçek birisinin ve ebeveynin izin verdiği takdirde bağ kurabilecekleri gerçek bir benliğin olduğunu düşünürler.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed

“Sağlıklı öfkeye verilebilecek güzel bir örnek, bir şekilde saygısızlık ya da taciz içeren bir olay meydana geldiğinde, öfkenin gelip, "Bu doğru değil," demesidir. Öfke bunun icin vardır - yani gerekli olan sınırları yaratmak için.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed

“Geldiğimiz yer ve bizi oluşturan şey 'Anne'dir. Mitolojide ve dinde, bu kaynak genellikle bir tür ana tanrıça, ekseriyetle de bir okyanus tanrıçası olarak tasvir edilir. Hayatın nasıl okyanusta başladığı düşünülüyorsa, insan hayatı da annede, daha doğrusu rahimde başlar. Dolayısıyla, hem mitolojik düzeyde, hem de dünyevi düzeyde hayatın kaynağı annedir.”
― Jasmin Lee Cori, The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed