Around the World in 80 Dates Quotes

“...you fall in love in three stages: lust, attraction and attachment.”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“I'd just started to realise how important it was to intersperse my 80 Dates with some normal socialising, preferably with female friends. Dating was really demanding: there was all the stress of preparation and anticipation. Then there was the date intself: fraught with revealing body-language and full of silent 'I can't believe he just said that' moments.
...I needed relaxed, 'no agenda' fun with girlfriends to help offset the pressure of dating and stop me obsessing about 'I can't believe I just said that' moments of my own.”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“...when two people meet and get involved, they each bring their own history with them. How you bring these histories together provides the condition for the future of your relationship. A person who gives you too much of their "history" shows an inability to choose or prioritise their relationships.
Love professor - to Jennifer”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“I am sick of love, I want power. I have had enough of being Romeo. I want to be Mercutio.
Solimano (Romeo) - to Jennifer”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“...although I suspect my solution isn't for everyone, I did learn a couple of things that possibly are. Firstly, that before I could find my Soul Mate, I had to be brutally honest about how much room there was in my life for him, and be prepared to rearrange my priorities accordingly. Secondly, that I believed that with hard work, I would find an exciting job, lovely friends, and a body that didn't wobble too much when I walked - yet, strangely (or perhaps because I'd been hurt and disappointed before), I had no such expectations of my love life. When it came to earning a decent boyfriend, I lacked the same confidence and ambition.”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“Imagine yourself winning?.. Wouldn't that make you overconfident?'
'Not at all... It's called "positive visualisation", like being a runner: see yourself making it across the finish line, you pace yourself better, run a better race too. See yourself winning at poker, you make the winning calls. See yourself as a loser, you've not got the self-belief or determination to play well, no matter how much money you gamble.'
Chester - to Jennifer
I was shocked to hear the words of the Love Professor echoed by Chester: like yourself and you'll win; think you're a loser, and sure enough you'll end up losing.”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“...this is a way of handling a fear of losing control. One way - which is perhaps not the best way - to try and regain control is to talk, talk, talk.
Love Professor - to Jennifer”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“An also, from the opposite perspective, it can be quite disappointing, when the one you want to share your life with will not share very much of his or her own life with you. The person who will not share their past is unlikely to see you in their future.
Love Professor - to Jennifer”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“...body odours are certainly affected by high levels of stress. Working too much; too many problems; no time for leisure, etcetera, can - on a subconscious level - be recognised in the way you smell.
Love Professor - to Jennifer”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“When two people are attracted, we send messages that we are interested and want to become better acquainted, often by mimicking each other's actions. If a woman strokes her hair, the man will make the same movement a second later. After a while, if everything works and there is a mutual interest, there will be a perfect synchronicity. We tend to like a partner who is a reflection of ourselves: finding a person who mirrors you in such a positive way is very easy to fall in love with.'
Presumably the same was true from a negative perspective too: if you felt rubbish, you were more likely to pick a partner who made you feel you were rubbish?
Again, the Love Professor concurred. 'If you have a secure and positive image of yourself - being nice, liking yourself - you will be more likely to pick someone who sees and affirms that in you. However, if your self-esteem is absent or very low, you find it harder to believe there is someone else out there like you or who will like you.'
Love Professor - to Jennifer”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“There are a number of well and wearily trodden paths to a new man... Rather than catching up on your paperwork, you could squeeze in some 'best of a bad lot' power-flirting on the commute to work (and be gutted when, even though you didn't fancy them to begin with, ypur focus knocks you back). Maybe you're considering signing up for online dating or going to places where you should but absolutely never will, meet someone suitable? Since over the last year I've tried them all, I'll share what I've learnt with you. I've sat chatting to Belgian lawyers in Starbucks (willing them to be even a little more interesting); I've dabbled with online dating (where all the guys have done the Nick Hornby's Guide to Women course and are single parents with angelic but troubled kids, or run small, quirky yet failing businesses). I don't even want to think about going to another cultural event (to meet graduates of the Tony Parsons' Guide to Women course: bitterness over ex-wife, partially concealed by exterior of witty self-loathing, which in turn is momentarily obscured by an encyclopaedic knowledge of early punk bands).”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story

“There are only so many hours in the day, and chances are that if you have a successful career it's your job that takes up most of them. As the economy flourishes are we in the grip of an emotional recession? Have we made our jobs the primary relationships in our lives, settling for a so-so boyfriend because that's all we have the time to either find or maintain?”
― Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates: What if Mr. Right Isn't Mr. Right Here, A True Story