Quiet Quotes

“Another example, this one from the 2000 crash of the dot-com bubble, concerns a self-described introvert based in Omaha, Nebraska, where he’s well known for shutting himself inside his office for hours at a time. Warren Buffett, the legendary investor and one of the wealthiest men in the world, has used exactly the attributes we’ve explored in this chapter—”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Another example, this one from the 2000 crash of the dot-com bubble, concerns a self-described introvert based in Omaha, Nebraska, where he’s well known for shutting himself inside his office for hours at a time. Warren Buffett, the legendary”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“But when they embraced the Culture of Personality, Americans started to focus on how others perceived them. They became captivated by people who were bold and entertaining.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“And many introverts are shy, partly as a result of receiving the message that there’s something wrong with their preference for reflection, and partly because their physiologies, as we’ll see, compel them to withdraw from high-stimulation environments.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“A few things introverts are not: The word introvert is not a synonym for hermit or misanthrope.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“true self-esteem comes from competence, not the other way around.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“where we stumble is where our treasure lies.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“The parents of high-reactive children are exceedingly lucky, Belsky told me. “The time and effort they invest will actually make a difference. Instead of seeing these kids as vulnerable to adversity, parents should see them as malleable—for worse, but also for better.” He describes eloquently a high”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Functional, moderate guilt,” writes Kochanska, “may promote future altruism, personal responsibility, adaptive behavior in school, and harmonious, competent, and prosocial relationships with parents, teachers, and friends.” This is an especially important set of attributes at a time when a 2010 University of Michigan study shows that college students today are 40 percent less empathetic than they were thirty years ago, with much of the drop having occurred since 2000. (The study’s authors speculate that the decline in empathy is related to the prevalence of social media, reality TV, and “hyper-competitiveness.”)”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Neither E=mc2 nor Paradise Lost was dashed off by a party animal."
"Perhaps instead of trying to change their ways, colleges can learn to listen to their sound of silence.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Reward sensitivity motivates us to pursue goals like sex and money, social status and influence. It prompts us to climb ladders and reach for faraway branches in order to gather life’s choicest fruits.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Indeed, studies show that face-to-face interactions create trust in a way that online interactions can’t.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“No one would choose this sort of painful adolescence, but the fact is that the solitude of Woz’s teens, and the single-minded focus on what would turn out to be a lifelong passion, is typical for highly creative people.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“more social and gregarious.” We tend to forget that there’s nothing sacrosanct about learning in large group classrooms, and that we organize students this way not because it’s the best way to learn but because it’s cost-efficient, and what else would we do with our children while the grown-ups are at work? If your child prefers to work autonomously and socialize one-on-one, there’s nothing wrong with her; she just happens not to fit the prevailing model. The purpose of school should be to prepare kids for the rest of their lives, but too often what kids need to be prepared for is surviving the school day itself.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Studies have shown that, indeed, introverts are more likely than extroverts to express intimate facts about themselves online that their family and friends would be surprised to read, to say that they can express the “real me” online, and to spend more time in certain kinds of online discussions.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“performing companies had in common, the nature of their CEOs jumped out at him. Every single one of them was led by an unassuming man like Darwin Smith. Those who worked with these leaders tended to describe them with the following words: quiet, humble, modest, reserved, shy, gracious, mild-mannered, self-effacing, understated.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“from adolescence and leave the confines of their hometown, they find a world in which loudness and speaking out are the tickets to popularity and financial success. They come to live with a double-consciousness—part Asian and part American”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Those who know do not speak. Those who speak do not know.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Buffett takes pride not only in his track record, but also in following his own “inner scorecard.” He divides the world into people who focus on their own instincts and those who follow the herd. “I feel like I’m on my back,”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“respond thoughtfully; Aron has noted that sensitive people tend to speak softly because that’s how they prefer others to communicate with them.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“In other words, you want to make sure that your spouse cares what other people think. It’s better to mind too much than to mind too little.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“his book, Born to Be Good, Keltner even says that if he had to choose his mate by asking a single question at a speed-dating event, the question he would choose is: “What was your last embarrassing experience?” Then he would watch very carefully for lip-presses, blushing, and averted eyes. “The elements of the embarrassment are fleeting statements the individual makes about his or her respect for the judgment of others,” he writes. “Embarrassment reveals how much the individual cares about the rules that bind us to one another.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“embarrassment. And embarrassment, according to Keltner, is a moral emotion. It shows humility, modesty, and a desire to avoid aggression and make peace. It’s not about isolating the person who feels ashamed (which is how it sometimes feels to easy blushers), but about bringing people together. Keltner has tracked the roots of human embarrassment and found that after many primates fight, they try to make up. They do this partly by making gestures of embarrassment of the kind we see in humans—looking away, which acknowledges wrongdoing and the intention to stop; lowering the head, which shrinks one’s size; and pressing the lips together, a sign of inhibition. These gestures in humans have been called “acts of devotion,”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Keltner, is a moral emotion.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Imagine how much better you’ll be at this sweet-spot game once you’re aware of playing it. You can set up your work, your hobbies, and your social life so that you spend as much time inside your sweet spot as possible. People who are aware of their sweet spots have the power to leave jobs that exhaust them and start new and satisfying businesses. They can hunt for homes based on the temperaments of their family members—with cozy window seats and other nooks and crannies for the introverts, and”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“important: we can stretch our personalities, but only up to a point. Our inborn temperaments influence us, regardless of the lives we lead. A sizable part of who we are is ordained by our genes, by our brains, by our nervous systems. And yet the elasticity that Schwartz found in some of the high-reactive teens also suggests the converse: we have free will and can use it to shape our personalities.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Stephen Suomi, the scientist who conducted these studies, has speculated that these high-reactive monkeys owed their success to the enormous amounts of time they spent watching rather than participating in the group, absorbing on a deep level the laws of social dynamics. (This is a hypothesis that might ring true to parents whose high-reactive children hover observantly on the edges of their peer group, sometimes for weeks or months, before edging successfully inside.)”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

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― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Parks’s story is a vivid reminder that we have been graced with limelight-avoiding leaders throughout history. Moses, for example, was not, according to some interpretations of his story, the brash, talkative type who would organize road trips and hold forth in a classroom at Harvard Business School. On the contrary, by today’s standards he was dreadfully timid. He spoke with a stutter and considered himself inarticulate. The book of Numbers describes him as “very meek, above all the men which were upon the face of the earth.” When God first appeared to him in the form of a burning bush, Moses was employed as a shepherd by his father-in-law; he wasn’t even ambitious enough to own his own sheep. And when God revealed to Moses his role as liberator of the Jews, did Moses leap at the opportunity? Send someone else to do it, he said. “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh?” he pleaded. “I have never been eloquent. I am slow of speech and tongue.” It was only when God paired him up with his extroverted brother Aaron that Moses agreed to take on the assignment. Moses would be the speechwriter, the behind-the-scenes guy, the Cyrano de Bergerac; Aaron would be the public face of the operation. “It will be as if he were your mouth,” said God, “and as if you were God to him.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking