Embers Quotes

“No, the secret is that there's no reward and we have to endure our characters and our natures as best we can, because no amount of experience or insight is going to rectify our deficiencies, our self-regard, or our cupidity. We have to learn that our desires do not find any real echo in the world. We have to accept that the people we love do not love us, or not in the way we hope. We have to accept betrayal and disloyalty, and, hardest of all, that someone is finer than we are in character or intelligence.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“Do you also believe that what gives our lives their meaning is the passion that suddenly invades us heart, soul, and body, and burns in us forever, no matter what else happens in our lives? And that if we have experienced this much, then perhaps we haven’t lived in vain? Is passion so deep and terrible and magnificent and inhuman? Is it indeed about desiring any one person, or is it about desiring desire itself? That is the question. Or perhaps, is it indeed about desiring a particular person, a single, mysterious other, once and for always, no matter whether that person is good or bad, and the intensity of our feelings bears no relation to that individual’s qualities or behavior?”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“You would like to read, but somehow the rain gets into the book, too; not literally, and yet it really does, the letters are meaningless, and all you hear is the rain.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“She said she never wanted to have secrets from me nor from herself, which is why she wanted to write down everything that otherwise would be hard to talk about. As I said, later I understood that someone who flees into honesty like that fears something, fears that her life will fill with something that can no longer be shared, a genuine secret, indescribable, unutterable.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“We all of us must come to terms with what and who we are, and recognize that this wisdom is not going to earn us any praise, that life is not going to pin a medal on us for recognizing and enduring our own vanity or egoism or baldness or our potbelly.”
― Sandor Marai, Embers

“And yet, sometimes facts are no more than pitiful consequences, because guilt does not reside in our acts but in the intentions that give rise to our act. Everything turns on our intentions.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“We were quite different, but we belonged together, we were more than the sum of our two selves, we were allies, we made our own community, and that is rare in life.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“It is not true that fate slips silently into our lives. It steps in through the door that we have opened, and we invite it to enter. No one is strong enough or cunning enough to avert by word or deed the misfortune that is rooted in the iron laws of his character and his life.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“There are worse things than suffering and death... it is worse to lose one's self-respect.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“And I've been waiting for you, because I couldn't do anything else. And we've both known that we would meet again, and then it would be all over with life and everything that gave our existence meaning and tension. A secret of the kind that lurks between the two of us has extraordinary power. It burns through the fabric of life like a scorching beam, and yet at the same time it also gives it tensile strength. It forces us to live.”
― Sándor Márai , Embers

“Time is a purgatory that has cleansed all fury from my memories.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“But like every kiss, this one is an answer, a clumsy but tender answer to a question that eludes the power of language.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“... deep inside you was a frantic longing to be something or someone other than you are. It is the greatest scourge a man can suffer, and the most painful. Life becomes bearable only when one has come to terms with who one is, both in one's own eyes and in the eyes of the world. We all of us must come to terms with what and who we are, and recognize that this wisdom is not going to earn us any praise, that life is not gong to pin a medal on us for recognizing and enduring our own vanity or egoism or baldness or our pot-belly. No, the secret is that there's no reward and we have to endure our characters and our natures as best we can, because no amount of experience or insight is going to rectify our deficiencies, our self-regard, or our cupidity. We have to learn that our desires do not find any real echo in the world. We have to accept that the people we love do not love us, or not in the way we hope. We have to accept betrayal and disloyalty, and hardest of all, that someone is finer than we are in character or intelligence.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“Friendship is no ideal state of mind; it is a law, and a strict one, on which the entire legal systems of great cultures were built. It reaches beyond personal desires and self-regard in men's hearts, its grip is greater than that of sexual desire, and it is proof against disappointment because it asks for nothing.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“Vienna wasn't just a city, it was a tone that either one carries forever in one's soul or one does not. It was the most beautiful thing in my life. I was poor, but I was not alone, because I had a friend. And Vienna was like another friend. When it rained in the tropics, I always heard the voice of Vienna. And at other times too. Sometimes deep in the virgin forests I smelled the musty smell of the entrance hall in Hietzing. Music and everything I loved was in the stones of Vienna, and in people's glances and their behavior, the way pure feelings are part of one's very heart. You know when the feelings stop hurting. Vienna in winter and spring. The allés in Schönbrunn. The blue light in the dormitory at the academy, the great white stairwell with the baroque statue. Morning ridings in the Prater. The mildew in the riding school. I remember all of it exactly, and I wanted to see it again...”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“Is disinterest not the essence of every human relationship?”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“... I was surrounded by trust and affection. No one could ask more of life, it is the greatest blessing of all.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“Vienna, to me it was the tuning fork for the entire world. Saying the word Vienna was like striking a tuning fork and then listening to find what tone it called forth in the person I was talking to. It was how I tested people. If there was no response, this was not the kind of person I liked. Vienna wasn't just a city, it was a tone that either one carries forever in one's soul or one does not. It was the most beautiful thing in my life. I was poor, but I was not alone, because I had a friend.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“The world spares only those who remain modest and humble - and even then only for an interval, no more.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“There's a feeling of shame that is more painful than any other in life; it's the shame felt by the victim who is forced to look his killer in the eyes, as if he were the creature bowing before its creator.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“I am thinking that people find truth and collect experiences in vain, for they cannot change their fundamental natures. And perhaps the only thing in life one can do is to take the givens of one’s fundamental nature and tailor them to reality as cleverly and carefully as one can. That is the most we can accomplish.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“After reaching ninety, one ages differently from the way one aged at fifty or sixty: one ages without bitterness.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“Whoever refuses to accept a part wants the whole, wants everything.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“العزلة هي أيضاً حالة في منتهى الخصوصية. أحياناً تَمثُل كغابة ممتلئة بالمخاطر والمفاجآت. أنا أعرف كل تنوعاتها. السأم الذي تحاول عبثاً جعله يتوارى مستعيناً بنسق حياة منظمة بشكل اصطناعي. الأزمات المتكررة وغير ، المتوقعة. العزلة هي مكان طافح بالأسرار، مثل الغابة.”
― شاندور ماراي, اللقاء الأخير

“Evidently one endures anything, provided one has a goal.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“Every exercise of power incorporates a faint, almost imperceptible, element of contempt for those over whom the power is exercised. One can only dominate another human soul if one knows, understands, and with the utmost tact despises the person one is subjugating.”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“يمكن أن يكون لديك كل شيء في الحياة، يمكنك التغلب على كل ما حولك وفي العالم، كل شيء يمكن أن تعطيك إياه الحياة ويمكنك انتزاع كل شيء، لكن لا يمكنك أبداً تغيير الأذواق، الميول، الإيقاعات الحيوية لشخص محدد، هذه الخصوصية، هه الكيفية التي تجعلك خاصاً ومختلفاً التي تطبع الشخص الذي يهمك أمره.”
― شاندور ماراي, اللقاء الأخير

“الزمن يحتفظ بكل شيء، لكن كل شيء يعود باهتاً مثل الصور القديمة المثبتة فوق صفائح معدنية. الضوء ومرور الزمن يمحيان التفاصيل الدقيقة التي تميز الوجوه المصورة. على المرء النظر إلى الصورة من زوايا مختلفة والبحث عن الضوء المناسب للتعرف على وجه الشخص الذي ظلت ملامحه مثبتة على المرآة الكامدة للصفيحة. بالطريقة ذاتها تتبدد في الزمن كل الذكريات الإنسانية. ثم، في لحظة غير متوقعة يأتينا شعاع من النور فنرى الوجه المنسي ذاته.”
― شاندور ماراي, اللقاء الأخير

“There isno feeling sadder or more hopeless than the coolingof a friendship between two men. Between a man anda woman a delicate web of terms and conditions is always negotiated. Between men, on the other hand, the deep sense of friendship rests on its selflessness: we expect no sacrifices, no tenderness from each other, all we want is to preserve a pact wordlessly made between us. Perhaps I was really the guilty one, because I did not know you well”
― Sándor Márai, Embers

“La realidad no es lo mismo que la verdad —respondió el general—. La realidad son sólo detalles.”
― Márai Sándor, El último encuentro