Like Subjects, Love Objects Quotes

“Beauty belongs to the beloved who returns the gaze, in whose eyes we see the sun. But in this . . . beauty, in the mutual gaze, also lies the beginning of terror --awe, idealization, overstimulation, violation, loss.”
― Jessica Benjamin, Like Subjects, Love Objects: Essays on Recognition and Sexual Difference

“All that is bad and dreaded is projected into the other, and all the anxiety is seen as the product of external attack rather than one's own subjective state . . . [which] the fear of the other's omnipotence as well as the need to retaliate by asserting one's own omnipotence.”
― Jessica Benjamin, Like Subjects, Love Objects: Essays on Recognition and Sexual Difference