Shame Quotes

“I realize that I have left part of myself in a place where I shall probably never come back.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“In his writings, Proust suggests that our memory is separate from us, residing in the ocean breeze or the smells of early autumn—things linked to the earth that recur periodically, confirming the permanence of mankind. For me and no doubt many of my contemporaries, memories are associated with ephemeral things such as a fashionable belt or a summer hit and therefore the act of remembering can do nothing to reaffirm my sense of identity or continuity. It can only confirm the fragmented nature of my life and the belief that I belong to history.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“This can be said about shame: those who experience it feel that anything can happen to them, that the shame will never cease and that it will only be followed by more shame.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“I expect nothing from Psychoanalysis or therapy, whose rudimentary conclusions became clear to me a long time ago--- a domineering mother, a father whose submissiveness is shattered by a murderous gesture... To state "it's a childhood trauma" or "that day the idols were knocked off their pedestal" does nothing to explain a scene which could only be conveyed by the expression that came to me at the time: to breathe disaster. Here abstract speech fails to reach me.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“This is where I am sitting, one evening in late May or early June, before that Sunday. I have finished my homework; there is a pervading sweetness in the air. I feel intoxicated by the future. It’s the same feeling I get when I sing Mexico and Miami Beach Rhumba in my bedroom at the top of my voice, the same feeling as when I marvel at the mystery of a whole lifetime stretching ahead of me.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“People are forever remembering.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“We have no true memory of ourselves.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“Quel che mi importa, invece, è ritrovare le parole attraverso le quali pensavo me stessa e il mondo circostante. Stabilire ciò che per me era normale e ciò che era inammissibile, persino inimmaginabile. Ma la donna che sono nel ‘95 è incapace di ricollocarsi nella ragazzina del ‘52 che conosceva soltanto la sua cittadina, la sua famiglia, la sua scuola privata, e aveva a sua disposizione un vocabolario ridotto. E, davanti a lei, l’immensità del tempo da vivere. Non esiste un’autentica memoria di sé.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“A lifetime is split up into successive stages when people become “old enough to”:
—take Holy Communion...
—start having their period...
—drink wine...
—get a job and go dancing...
—do one's military service
—go and see naughty films
—get married and have kids
—wear black
—stop working
—die

In our lives nothing is thought, everything is done.

People are forever remembering.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“La vergüenza siempre lleva consigo la sensación de que, a partir de ese momento, puede sucederte cualquier cosa, de que es algo que no tiene fin, pues la verngüenza se alimenta de vergüenza”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“Para mí, la vergüenza se convirtió en una forma de vida. En el peor de los casos era algo que ya ni siquiera percibía: la llevaba dentro de mi propio cuerpo.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“This is the first time I am writing about what happened. Until now, I have found it impossible to do so, even in my diary. I considered writing about it to be a forbidden act that would call for punishment.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“Le pire dans la honte, c'est qu'on croit être seul à la ressentir”
― Annie Ernaux, La Honte

“Day after day, year after year, the private school tells us the same story over and over again, cultivating familiarity with invisible yet omnipresent characters who are neither dead nor alive-----the Virgin Mary, the Infant Jesus, the angels-----whose lives are closer to us than those of our own grandparents.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“anyone who doesn't speak "the way we do" is, to some extent, labeled a foreigner.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“When it comes to illustrating social change, newspapers can only provide collective evidence.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“Naturally I shall not opt for narrative, which would mean inventing reality instead of searching for it. Neither shall I content myself with merely picking out and transcribing the images I remember; I shall process them like documents, examining them from different angles to give them meaning. In other words, I shall carry out an ethnological study of myself.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“From then on, that Sunday was like a veil that came between me and everything I did. I would play, I would read, I would behave normally but somehow I wasn't there. Everything had become artificial. I had trouble learning my lessons, when before I only needed to read them once to know them by heart. Acutely aware of everything around me and yet unable to concentrate., I lost my insouciance and natural ability to learn.

(...)

I waited for the scene to be repeated. I was positive it would happen again. I found the presence of customers comforting, dreading the moments when my parents and I were alone, in the evenings and on Sunday afternoons. I was on the alert as soon as they raised their voices; I would scrutinize my father, his expression, his hands. In every sudden silence I would read the omens of disaster. Every day at school I wondered whether, on returning home, I would be faced with the aftermath of a tragedy.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“این احساس است که دختر سال 1952 را به زنی که در حال نوشتن است پیوند میزند.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“و زمانِ زندگی به "سن" طبقه بندی میشد؛ سنِ انجام مراسم سپاسگزاری و دریافت یک ساعتِ مچی، سنِ داشتنِ اولین فرِ مو برای دخترها و اولین کت و شلوار برای پسرها؛
سنِ عادت ماهیانه شدن و حق پوشیدن جوراب های ساق بلند؛
سنِ نوشیدن در مهمانی های خانوادگی، حقِ داشتنِ یک سیگار، در جمع ماندن موقع تعریف کردن داستانهای وقیحانه؛
سنِ کار کردن و رفتن به دورهمی، سنِ معاشرت کردن؛
سنِ سربازی رفتن؛
دیدن فیلم های بیمحتوا؛
سن ِ ازدواج کردن و بچه دار شدن؛
لباسِ سیاه پوشیدن؛
دیگر کار نکردن؛
مُردن.

اینجا درباره هیچ گاری فکری نمیکنند؛ همه چیز انجام میشود.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“بعدها به چند نفر گفتم: "وقتی دوازده سالم بود، پدرم میخواست مادرم را بکُشد." دلم میخواست این جمله را به آن ها بگویم چون واقعا دوستشان داشتم. همگی بعد از شنیدن این جمله ساکت شدند. متوجه می شدم که اشتباه کرده ام و اینکه آنها نمیتوانستند این مسئله را هضم کنند.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame

“A partir de entonces, les he dicho a varios hombres: «Cuando yo estaba a punto de cumplir doce años, mi padre intentó matar a mi madre». El hecho de haber necesitado decírselo demuestra lo unida que me sentía a ellos. Sin embargo, todos se quedaron en silencio después de oírlo. Y yo me daba cuenta de que había cometido un error, de que no estaban preparados para escucharlo.”
― Annie Ernaux, Shame