What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It Quotes

“Let's face it. It's taken years for you to learn to be the person you are, so you're not going to change overnight. But the good news in that you can unlearn those aspects that you want to change and chart a new path in life. And it's never too late to start, whether you're 20, 40, 60, or 80!”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It

“Because no one is perfect, we all desperately need forgiveness. By forgiving others you allow them to be human, and in doing so it makes you more aware of how human you really are. Think of all the people you've judged because of their behavior. Isn't it true that some of them behave in very similar ways to you? There isn't a person on the face of this earth who doesn't need grace.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“Perhaps you've been through a seemingly endless string of difficult circumstances in life or you still feel anger toward your parents for painful childhood memories you have. Whatever the difficulties you've faced, you can overcome the lies attached to your private logic that continue to hold you back. So many people look everywhere but to themselves for the change that needs to happen in their lives, pointing at their missed opportunities and blaming their parents.

You don't have to be one of them.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It

“For those of you who have childhood memories with pain or loss in them, it probably doesn't take much to recall those grievances and grudges. But as we look at the power of confronting the truth about your past, I hope that you (...) can avoid the waste before the days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, and months turn into years. You can take control. You can avoid those wasted years.

And it's never too late to start.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It

“No matter what you've been through, you can make it!”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“What happens to children of critical-eyed parents is that they begin avoiding criticism at all costs because it becomes too threatening. Rather than finish a task, they'll stop an inch short and start something else.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“There are all sorts of lies you tell yourself over and over until you accept them as readily as you do your own skin. And it isn't always easy to recognize them as lies.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“Unfortunately, we live in an instant Jell-O society, with everybody wanting microwaved success. So as you look at truth therapy to combat the lies you tell yourself, don't go overboard with your expectations.

Remember to lighten up and put your party hat on every now and then. Celebrate the little steps . . . as well as the significant milestones.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It

“Speaking the truth in love requires two parts--truth and love. Cut either one out of the equation, and you'll cut yourself short. You may be one of the most difficult people for you to love because you know your weaknesses so well. Likewise, you may be one of the most difficult people to tell the truth to because it's so much easier to avoid facing the lies you tell yourself.

But put those two elements together in your life--truth and love--and see how much easier they are to take!”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It

“You may have terrible memories from your childhood . . . horrific memories that no one should live through. Especially not a child. If this has been your experience, and you've placed those memories in a vault, locked them away, and buried the key, who could blame you? But, by doing so, what else--besides your memories--have you placed in that vault?

May I gently suggest that perhaps you've climbed in there yourself, closed the door, and locked it behind you? If so, you may be effectively locking out those who could help you.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It

“Growing up in a family is a lot like stepping onto that stage in which everyone is ad-libbing. You have a part to play, but it's difficult to say at first exactly what it is because no one receives a script at birth. So you spend years figuring out what your role is without stepping on anyone else's toes.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“Memories are also tainted by lies.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“lies drive a wedge between who you really are and who you act like you are, and the greater the distance between those two, the greater the dissonance in your life will be.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“You may be all too conscious of your own blemishes and feel like that imperfect, rejected block (or an imperfect blockhead), but the Master Artist, who knows what you're made of better than you do, takes your worst flaws and incorporates them into the beauty of his creation-you!”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It

“Your private logic is shaped both by who you innately were when you were born and who you became through your family environment.”
― Kevin Leman, What Your Childhood Memories Say about You: And What You Can Do about It