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It’s not how u feel, it’s what u do that counts !

What ever u believe in ur self, in this superficial pop psychology self knowledge is more about personality, rather than the intimate kind of knowing side with our histories to better se our present self

Intense judgment towards anyone, check in with ur body. The lesson is not that u shouldn’t judge, because it is ur automatic mind doing it. To judge ourself for judging is to keep the wheel of shame spinning. Healing flow when we are able to view this world as a mirror our own pain.

Where ever we find us tolerating or explaining away situation that often stresses us insisting that “it’s not so bad”, “ I can handle it”, “I don’t want to make a fuss about it”, there is opportunity to give anger some space. Even the plain spoken “ I don’t like this” or ” i don’t what this” can be a step forward

There is no freedom to having to be good, most talented or in need to please or entertain or be interesting. Nor can we be authentic when we react by automatic oppression to other people’s demands. Mayor reactivity leave no room for response ability

Core needs: belonging, relatedness or connectedness, autonomy, sense of control of once life, mastery or competence, genuine self-esteem not dependent on achievement, position or valuation by other, trust a sense of having a personal and social recourse to sustain one through life and purpose, meaning, knowing oneself as part of something larger than isolated self-centred problems.

Calling an addiction a disease may capture aspects of it without coming close to explaining the phenomenon and not granting us a workable pathway to healing at is source. Addiction is not restricted to drugs

Addictions represent the defences of a organism again suffering not knowing how to endure.

Which traits and attitudes serve the maintenance of the culture this are then inshrined as human nature while deviation from them are seen as abnormal

Nobody can in defensive mode and in growth mode