Madi’s Reviews > Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed > Status Update

Madi
is on page 229 of 413
It’s a common belief that people’s sex lives reflect their relationships, that a good relationship equals a good sex life and vice versa. But that’s only true sometimes. Just as often, there are people who have extremely problematic relationships and fantastic sex, and there are people who are deeply in love but who don’t click with the same intensity in the bedroom.
— Jan 15, 2024 12:22PM
Like flag
Madi’s Previous Updates

Madi
is on page 410 of 413
Once outside, I quicken my step as I head to my car. I have patients to see at the office, people like me, all of us trying our best to get out of our own ways. The light on the corner is about to change so I run to catch it, but then I notice the warmth on my skin and I stop at the curb, tilting my face to the sun, soaking it in, lifting my eyes to the world.
Actually, I’ve got plenty of time.
— Jan 18, 2024 12:49PM
Actually, I’ve got plenty of time.

Madi
is on page 375 of 413
In the best goodbyes, there’s always the feeling that there’s something more to say.
— Jan 18, 2024 12:28PM

Madi
is on page 304 of 413
But many people come to therapy seeking closure. Help me not to feel. What they eventually discover is that you can’t mute one emotion without muting the others. You want to mute the pain? You’ll also mute the joy.
— Jan 18, 2024 10:56AM

Madi
is on page 314 of 413
Some people hope that therapy will help them find a way to be heard by whoever they feel wronged them, at which point those lovers or relatives will see the light and become the people they’d wished for all along. But it rarely happens like that.
At some point, being a fulfilled adult means taking responsibility for the course of your own life and accepting the fact that now you’re in charge of your choices.
— Jan 18, 2024 10:39AM
At some point, being a fulfilled adult means taking responsibility for the course of your own life and accepting the fact that now you’re in charge of your choices.

Madi
is on page 284 of 413
[…] sometimes I think of the “before” with a weird kind of nostalgia.
I wouldn’t want it back, but I’m glad I remember it.
— Jan 17, 2024 02:30PM
I wouldn’t want it back, but I’m glad I remember it.

Madi
is on page 264 of 413
We may want others’ forgiveness, but that comes from a place of self-gratification; we are asking forgiveness of others to avoid the harder work of forgiving ourselves.
— Jan 17, 2024 11:39AM

Madi
is on page 254 of 413
I think about how it’s the not knowing that torments all of us. Not knowing why your boyfriend left. Not knowing what’s wrong with your body. Not knowing if you could have saved your son. At a certain point, we all have to come to terms with the unknown and the unknowable. Sometimes we’ll never know why.
— Jan 17, 2024 10:57AM

Madi
is on page 247 of 413
I remember something I learned during my internship: “Avoidance is a simple way of coping by not having to cope.”
— Jan 17, 2024 10:43AM

Madi
is on page 243 of 413
There was an unspoken irony to all of this. People wanted a speedy solution to their problems, but what if their moods had been driven down in the first place by the hurried pace of their lives? They imagined that they were rushing now in order to savor their lives later, but so often, later never came.
— Jan 17, 2024 10:37AM

Madi
is on page 242 of 413
On Julie, a patient with cancer:
Then I feel the tears well up. Laughter to tears-grief. I'm going to miss Julie and I'm having a hard time with this myself.
Sometimes the only thing to do is yell, "Fuck!"
— Jan 17, 2024 10:34AM
Then I feel the tears well up. Laughter to tears-grief. I'm going to miss Julie and I'm having a hard time with this myself.
Sometimes the only thing to do is yell, "Fuck!"