Aaron Wong’s Reviews > The World Needs A Father: A Trainers Guide > Status Update

Years 19-20:
•personal identity🪪: right values, friends, choices, mission statement
•children return after Group Adventure phase to seek wisdom for adulthood
•🧠frontal lobe matures
•group identity & belonging ➡️ life meaning & contribution
•dopamine, serotonin ➡️ nonadrenaline
Year 21: rite of passage
Years 22-25: empowerment through university, job, spouse
- p. 32-33

Phase 3️⃣: Stepping Out & Up (19-25yo: father v culture)
26: Success Season Starts
22-25: Tertiary or On-The-Job Training
👨🏻21: Rite of Passage Into Manhood
👨🏻19-20: Identity (Values, Friends, Choices)
- p. 31

Years 14-15:
•team qualities: social roles, trustworthiness, communication, conflict management, decision making
•disengaging with parents ➡️ engaging with friends
Years 16-18:
•awareness & opinions on social issues
•key relationships
•🧠amygdala: emotional intelligence
•leadership capacity
- p. 30-31

Year 12: mood swings
Year 13 (rite of passage): You’ve tasted your next life phase. You’re no longer a child, but becoming an adult, so we’ll reason with you to make good decisions, which lead to success. You’ll learn about team, trust, roles, and friendship and see how home principles & values hold up to challenges. You’ll see how acknowledging and ignoring guardrails reap different results.
- p. 28-29

Ages:
17-18: Leadership Development/EQ
14-16: Relationships/Guardrails/Team
13: Rite of Passage
12: Peer Group Initiation
- p. 28

Phase 2: The Group-Adventure Phase (12-18 years)
•peer community
•explore, building the creative problem-solving areas of the brain
•belong in this world outside of the safety of the family, to find identity in the peer
•brain chemicals: dopamine for new achievements, acetylcholine for exclusion threats, serotonin for exploration
- p. 27-28

Years 6️⃣-8️⃣:
•affirm strengths💪🏼
•foster unstructured play, emotional regulation, reading vocabulary, father-son sexuality talk, empathy
Years 9-11:
•affirm girls’ physical beauty👸🏻
•choose battles wisely🥊
•Dad’s embrace to shoulders🫂
•sociability: 🏡Home to Group-Adventure🏘️
- p. 25-27

Years 2️⃣-3️⃣
•let them decide & stick to them, so they see consequences
•tantrums happen as they can’t express, when life doesn’t go their way
•shape their will without breaking their spirit
•give 3h of daily attention
•emotionally-pleasant environment
•fine motor: dough, blocks, necklaces, puzzles, scissors, painting
•gross motor: physical, throwing/catching, strollers, buckets
- p. 23-24

Home phase (age & characteristic developed):
Father:
10-11. Identity (Values, Friends, Choices)🪪
9. Sexuality👩‍❤️‍👨
8. Body, Soul, Spirit👤
7. Competencies☑️
6. Emotional Security / Validation / Discipline🔐
Mother:
5. Strengths💪🏼
4. Industry or Inferiority🏭
2-3. Autonomy or Uncertainty✍🏼
1. Intimacy (Trust or Mistrust)♥️
- p. 19

🏺Potters of the clay for each age:
•0-6: 🧑🏻mother ➡️ intellectual🧠
•6-11: 👨🏻father ➡️ basics, physical👤
•12-18: 👧🏻peer ➡️ social👯‍♀️
•19-21: 👨🏻father ➡️ identity🪪
•22-: 🇸🇬culture ➡️ training🏋🏻
- p. 18