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Children learn what they live. No amount of lecturing can undo the powerful impact on a child of their parent's own behaviour and choices.

Love is a choice, not a feeling. Until you understand that, you aren't ready for love.

11. They are often highly sensitive.
12. They are typically intensely focused on their latest project or interest.
13. They tend to be conscientious and highly committed.
14. They are usually intensely independent.

All these points fit A to a 'T'!

11. They are often highly sensitive.
12. They are typically intensely focused on their latest project or interest.
13. They tend to be conscientious and highly committed.
14. They are usually intensely independent.

All these points fit A to a 'T'!

6. They are typically highly perfection-oriented, but often that is focused on their expectations of themselves instead of others.
7. They tend to need high levels of validation.
8. They usually have an intense need to be heard.
9. They often have a strong need for emotional safety.
10. They tend to be resistant to change unless they feel like they have some control over the change.

Characteristics of strong willed children:
1. They are typically highly creative and intelligent.
2. They are usually passionate and intense in their interests and beliefs.
3. They often have an insatiable need to know 'why'.
4. They typically learn by doing.
5. They tend to have an intense need to test the status quo.

Recognising our childhood hurts and unmet needs, isolating those feelings and dealing with them with the adult emotional maturity that we now have allows us to process, forgive, and move on so that we don't repeat our past with our children.
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A difficult childhood can leave us as adults with a lack of self regulation skills that cause a constant,underlying stress.If we were abused/neglected, we may have buried hurts so deeply that we don't even realise that they are still there.The result may be that we became an adult who is constantly angry w/o knowing why / who is a control freak /who can't handle change or even an adult who has no self control at all.

Life-ready, heart-whole adults who act like adults instead of overgrown children are born of children who are given the chance to fully embrace their childhood, whose bodies are cared for with respect, and whose hearts are not broken again and again.
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Unhealed hurts and unforgiveness, even of yourself,will get in the way of a healthy relationship and take the steps you need to take in order to heal your relationship and yourself.