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"We’re going to hold each other accountable for them too. We’re going to try to stay together, no matter what. We’re going to stick it out. We’re not going to run away when it gets too hard or too scary, and we’re going to try to always see the best in each other: today, tomorrow and twenty years from now.’"

ROXANE GAY THE WOMAN THAT U ARE

"Do you need the piece of paper? Not necessarily, but I do think marriage is more than that, and it’s a strange reflex to minimize the commitment to just ‘a piece of paper’. For me, marriage is about saying, ‘Yes, we’ve already committed, but now we’re going to make vows to each other in front of our friends and our family, and they’re going to hold us accountable for those vows."

We realize that our private shame is universal, that our worst heartbreaks have been felt and survived before, and that, as Lemn said, ‘our experiences are bridges not ravines’, however painful they are.

She also reminded me that, as much as love involves consciousness, part of it requires us to close our eyes and jump without a plan. And the fact that we took that leap, without knowing that everything would work out? Perhaps that act of faith, of hope, might carry us through tougher times, when we look back and marvel at it, and think, how little we knew, how easily we could have found a reason not to jump.

I think a fear of abandonment has made me resistant of romantic love, but I haven’t resisted love in friendship. It is the place where I learnt to let people in.


FELT

if you saw the number of books on my cr, no you didnt