Matthew Jankowski’s Reviews > The Secret of Parenting: How to Be in Charge of Today's Kids--from Toddlers to Preteens--Without Threats or Punishment > Status Update

The baby self vs the mature self. The baby self is irrational and controlling. The mature self responsible. Author presents two selves. we start as baby self and then can at least make it through day once we reach maturity. This book is about dealing with our babies and helping them mature. Three basic strategies are presented: no-telling them no, stop-getting them to stop do-getting them to do what they don't want.