Barbara’s Reviews > Becoming a Pastor: Forming Self and Soul for Ministry > Status Update

"When a parishioner becomes ruthless towards you, the hostility is directed at the "object Pastor" or leader and to you as the "environment pastor". Taking a few seconds to consciously divide yourself... can help you remain present to ruthless persons and thereby facilitate their formation. Remembering the object pastor can keep you from defending yourself in ways that break relationships or worse."