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Although people perform at their peak while in flow, they are unconcerned with how they're doing, with thoughts of success or failure. To enter flow: focus sharply on the task or do a task at a slightly higher level than your ability

People's beliefs about their abilities have a profound effect on those abilities. Ability is not a fixed property, there is a huge variability in how you perform. People who have a sense of self-efficacy (belief that you are master of your own life and can meet its challenges) bounce back from failures; they approach things in terms of how to handle them rather than worrying about what can go wrong

- Skipped chapter 6: Master Aptitude
- Skipped last 2 pages of ch 9 - ch 10:Organizational Savvy and he Group IQ
- Skimmed ch 12:Getting the Emotional Basics to the end

How to have more emotional intelligence: identify, express and manage your. Feelings, delay gratification and control your impulses, and learn how to handle stress and anxiety

Challenging depressive thinking patterns and engaging in social activities you like helps shortcut depression.

People need to mourn the loss the trauma brought.

To get over PTSD, play games that help relive the trauma but in a safe, playful way. Or do it through the arts as it can defrost the iced image in the amygdala. Relaxation techniques also help. Retell the trauma in a safe environment to a therapist.

To get over PTSD, play games that help relive the trauma but in a safe, playful way. Or do it through the arts as it can defrost the iced image in the amygdala. Relaxation techniques also help. Retell the trauma in a safe environment to a therapist.

Helplessness is the wildcard in triggering PTSD

Worse 3 parenting styles: ignoring the kid’s feelings, being too laissez-faire, and being too contemptuous, aka showing no respect for how the kid feels.