Biblical and insightful for understanding the dysfunction that I have caused, the dysfunction I've allowed, and dysfunction that has simply happened in my life. Hurt people hurt people. "... and many others like her developed a calloused self. Repeatedly wounded emotionally, they weren't about to let themselves be hurt again. Instead they developed a system of replacing things for relationships. Annie realized that if she allowed herself to really want her mom she would be profoundly hurt. So she switched her desire from Mom to things-toys, knickknacks, candy, coloring pencils. She buried the need she had felt for trust, intimacy, and closeness. Never again would she willingly reach out to anyone for emotional comfort. Instead she relied only on herself and the material things she now loved... She no longer expressed or acknowledged her feelings to anyone, including herself...
Am I worthy of being loved? Am I competent to get the love I need? Are others reliable and trustworthy? Are others accessible and willing to respond to me when I need them to be?"
"... and many others like her developed a calloused self. Repeatedly wounded emotionally, they weren't about to let themselves be hurt again. Instead they developed a system of replacing things for relationships. Annie realized that if she allowed herself to really want her mom she would be profoundly hurt. So she switched her desire from Mom to things-toys, knickknacks, candy, coloring pencils. She buried the need she had felt for trust, intimacy, and closeness. Never again would she willingly reach out to anyone for emotional comfort. Instead she relied only on herself and the material things she now loved... She no longer expressed or acknowledged her feelings to anyone, including herself...
Am I worthy of being loved?
Am I competent to get the love I need?
Are others reliable and trustworthy?
Are others accessible and willing to respond to me when I need them to be?"