Dylan Whitlock’s Reviews > Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well > Status Update
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 9 of 368
(using this to keep track of thoughts instead of highlighting)
feedback in the workplace: "feedback-seeking behavior is linked to higher job satisfaction...seeking out negative feedback is associated with higher performance ratings"
I find this interesting bc I consider myself someone who is good at taking feedback (and wants it) in general, but I'm only good at this in the workplace and not so much in real life
— Jul 02, 2026 01:58PM
feedback in the workplace: "feedback-seeking behavior is linked to higher job satisfaction...seeking out negative feedback is associated with higher performance ratings"
I find this interesting bc I consider myself someone who is good at taking feedback (and wants it) in general, but I'm only good at this in the workplace and not so much in real life
Like flag
Dylan’s Previous Updates
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 97 of 368
This chapter discussed blindspots:
they are amplified by emotional math, attribution, and impact-intent gap
In order to see ourselves and our blindspots, we need to ask those around us for help (honest mirror)
— 26 minutes ago
they are amplified by emotional math, attribution, and impact-intent gap
In order to see ourselves and our blindspots, we need to ask those around us for help (honest mirror)
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 95 of 368
The MIT Human Dynamics lab developed electronic badges and apps that gathered data on how people interacted with each other throughout the day. It tracked tone, pitch, pace, gestures, and other nonverbal cues. MIT was able to predict successful or unsuccessful interactions/outcomes just using these signals and it has been used to help those with autism see and understand social cues (I found this interesting)
— 30 minutes ago
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 83 of 368
INTERESTING:
Superior Temporal Sulcus (STS) is responsible for interpreting others' voices and words but turns off when we speak! This is thought to be the main reason why we don't hear the tone of our voice the way others do
— Jul 12, 2026 07:58AM
Superior Temporal Sulcus (STS) is responsible for interpreting others' voices and words but turns off when we speak! This is thought to be the main reason why we don't hear the tone of our voice the way others do
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 81 of 368
Blind Spot: something others see about us that we don't see
Blind spots are often behavior or facial expressions/body language
— Jul 12, 2026 07:55AM
Blind spots are often behavior or facial expressions/body language
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 63 of 368
wrong spotting vs difference spotting:
wrong spotting (their FB is wrong bc of x,y,z) is much easier to do than stopping and asking why they view ____ the way they do. Difference spotting helps the giver and receiver by understanding each other's perspectives and coming to a conclusion about how they can each do better
— Jul 07, 2026 10:00AM
wrong spotting (their FB is wrong bc of x,y,z) is much easier to do than stopping and asking why they view ____ the way they do. Difference spotting helps the giver and receiver by understanding each other's perspectives and coming to a conclusion about how they can each do better
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 56 of 368
FB Data: what we take in to give feedback about, can lead to us just creating labels and delivering it as FB when really it's something we interpreted and filled in the gaps to then deliver as FB.
In these last few pages, I am observing how FB can be non-specific a lot of the time as well as fueled by our observations + past experiences
— Jul 06, 2026 02:40PM
In these last few pages, I am observing how FB can be non-specific a lot of the time as well as fueled by our observations + past experiences
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 48 of 368
Wrong Spotting can lead to not being able to learn from feedback. You're just pointing out what's wrong about the FB being given to you. It is understandable that we want to defend ourselves when given FB that is wrong but it is more beneficial if we try to understand why we might be getting this FB, in general
— Jul 06, 2026 06:52AM
Dylan Whitlock
is on page 46 of 368
Appreciation, Coaching, Evaluation are three kinds of FB people seek. Sometimes "cross-transactions" happen where someone may be looking for one thing when they ask for FB and get another.
Evaluation is imbedded in appreciation as well as coaching (mostly coaching)
— Jul 06, 2026 06:44AM
Evaluation is imbedded in appreciation as well as coaching (mostly coaching)