Katie Huggins’s Reviews > Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be > Status Update

Nothing feels as awful to kids as the painful feelings they are left alone with. Repair replaces this aloneness with connection, and this should be the ultimate trade up for ALL OF US in all of our relationships.

When parents say a child is not listening, what they mean to say is that a child is not cooperating.We should infuse connection,playfulness&trust in our requests.

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Kids do not fear info,so much as feeling confused&alone in the absence of info that terrifies them.Kids are wired to noticed changes in their environment,&they register fear if they don’t understand those changes.They react to a threat until an adult helps them neutralize that threat.Then even if a child confirms the worse,the child will feel safer knowing an adult is protecting them.
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“Boundaries are not what we tell children not to do. Boundaries are what we tell kids we will do. Boundaries embody your authority as a parent and don’t require your child to do anything.”

“Children who are left alone with intense distress ends up with either self doubt or self Blame. And they will grow up, letting other people’s behavior towards them define themselves.”

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~Kids need to feel their feelings and have new experiences.Have them learn resilience by teaching them to cope by whatever the world throws at them.The goal isn’t to shut down their feelings,or to turn away from whats noticed.The goal is to teach them to manage their perceptions,thoughts, feelings,&urges.We are the primary teachers,not w/lectures/logic;but the experiences we share w/ them

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