asmalldyke’s Reviews > Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy > Status Update
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Polysecure tackles the "why nonmonogamy" mostly for practical reasons, so: I get the sense that monogamy as a philosophy, like as an ideology, fucking sucks. Whether or not I would ever be interested in having more than one partner, I wish to expel the monogamous mind virus. There are better ways to think about and parse relationships, and I must know them.
— Mar 28, 2026 11:33AM
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asmalldyke
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I legit wonder if I've talked to people who read this, because so much of it I have heard of prior.
— Mar 28, 2026 06:41PM
asmalldyke
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My eyes fully bursting from my skull at seeing Internal Family Systems and Parts mentioned here, of all places. The ground I'm treading isn't short of footprints, itself.
— Mar 28, 2026 05:44PM
asmalldyke
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"making sense of your own story"?! "coherent narrative of our past experiences"?!? But what if my autobiographical memory is catastrophically full of holes and I barely remember anything before 20....... what then...
— Mar 28, 2026 05:31PM
asmalldyke
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Oh, I like that this book is like "we're gonna talk about healthy attachment to the self but it's not to exclude the healing power of securely attached relationships tho", I like that. Nice.
— Mar 28, 2026 05:26PM
asmalldyke
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Oh, do polycules just have a really big bed, like a floor-spanning thing? Do they swap spooning partners per night or smth? Much to think abt......
— Mar 28, 2026 05:07PM
asmalldyke
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Polysecure really did say 'be sure to gaze upon your partners in a loving, gay kinda way' which is adorable and I fully support but tough for autistic people and other eye-contact-averse dorks.
— Mar 28, 2026 04:49PM
asmalldyke
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"Instead of spinning out into doubt and fear, being able to recall the ways your partners experience you as special, even irreplacable, can soothe the anxious mind and allow for more compersion to arise." Fuck this book kinda rocks.
— Mar 28, 2026 04:41PM
asmalldyke
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Expressed Delight... maybe nothing ever worked because nobody ever even tried telling me how astoundingly good my shitass writings on books nobody cares about are :>
— Mar 28, 2026 04:35PM
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Mar 28, 2026 11:42AM
I also think people who are absolute sexual deviants and "just in it for the sex" rock. Aromantic? Slutting it for fun? Idk sounds like the deviants have more fun than whoever upholds the stigma.
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