Angela Blount’s Reviews > Stop Letting Everything Affect You: How to Break Free from Overthinking, Emotional Chaos, and Self-Sabotage > Status Update

"You can reclaim your power and your peace without completing the particular ritual of forgiveness that society often demands."

What society is he talking about?! Not Western secular society as I know it.
Pity the author doesn't seem to have any reference or regard here for people of faith. (I'd say you can skip the last 10% of this one and be better off for it.)

Here's where I don't agree with the author. He says "it doesn't truly matter whether you forgive, but whether you are able to move forward with your life." He's right that we need to honor our own timeline for healing, but he fails completely to recognize the toxicity of unforgiveness. (He also fails to distinguish between forgiveness and restoration--which may be where the disconnect lies.)

"I don't walk away to teach people a lesson. I walk away because I've finally learned mine."

Boom. o.o

"There is a special kind of sorrow that arrives, not from losing what was taken from you, but from consciously choosing to walk away from connections that once felt like home."

"You can't keep getting mad at people for sucking the life out of you if you keep giving them the straw."

...ouch.

On people who project onto you: "By casting themselves as victims, they resolve the cognitive dissonance between their actions and their desired self-image as 'good people.'"

"Not one scar on my heart came from an enemy. They all came from people who claimed to love me the most."

"The first step toward freedom is understanding that carrying everyone else's emotional weight isn't compassion. It's a learned pattern that likely began long before you had the words to describe it. Research in developmental psychology shows that many over-givers were once children who learned that their worth was tied to how well they could attend to other's needs."

"Research has shown that empathetic overload actually triggers the same stress responses in your body as if you were experiencing the stresses directly. Your body doesn't distinguish between your pain and the pain you absorb from others. It responds with the same cascade of stress hormones either way."

"Sometimes it's your friends that keep your enemies updated. Be careful."