Madi’s Reviews > The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times > Status Update

Our marriage is what we launch from and land in, a place where we can each be thoroughly, comfortably, often annoyingly ourselves. We've come to accept that this sphere we dwell in together, the energy and emotion between us, may not always be tidy and ordered, or exactly how one or both of us wants it, but the plain and reassuring fact is, it endures.

What I want more than anything is for them to prioritize learning the skills of independence-how to make a living, how to keep themselves healthy, fed, and happy—well ahead of signing up for a lifetime spent with another person. I tell them to focus on becoming whole people, able to stand on their own. When you know your own light, you are then better prepared to share it with another person.

Newness, in general, almost always requires an extra degree of caution. But here's the thing: We also sometimes over-accommodate our fears. It's easy to misinterpret a jolt of fear or a wash of anxiety as a cue to step back, stay put, and avoid experiencing something new.

I’d love to produce a clear, bullet-pointed set of steps to help you conquer every uncertainty and hasten the climb to whatever heights you hope to reach. I wish it were that simple. If I had a formula, I'd hand it right over. But keep in mind that I, too, lie in bed at night sometimes, wondering whether I'm good enough. Please know that, like everyone else, I find myself needing to overcome.