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Most people do not enjoy being duped by others, as it tends to lead to negative thoughts, emotions, and attitudes. In fact, the word liar is rated as the least likable personality trait of 555 descriptors

For any given year come around 12% of men report him sex with someone other than the spouse, the rate is 7% for women. The lifetime incidents rates seem to be around 28% for men and 15% for women
The tripartite theory of lying and dishonesty suggest that big liars consistently viewed their lying as morally permissible

In rare cases of fictitious disorder, people may lie about symptoms or illness of other people in may actually do symptoms and someone else. These cases are referred to as fictitious disorder imposed on another. Fictitious disorder imposed on another often involves a parent making a child ill or lying about a child's symptoms to attract attention and compassion

The main Street older kids differently than younger ones. They treat first born kids differently than later born ones. Also, while siblings May attend the same school, they have different teachers who push them in different ways. The children likely belong to different social clubs and sports teams, with experiences that are quite unique. Geneticists refer to this amalgam differences as the non-shared environment

Sexually hard to drive animals and other humans of play. If you manage that trick, however come with the animals become aggressive. And people come a lack of play or abnormal play in childhood is often a sign of a neurological disease or disorder like psychopathy. Prisoners on death row had a noticeable absence of play

A German theology and Paul Tillich noted, there are two sides to being alone. "Our language . . . Has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone," he wrote, "and it has created the word 'solitude' to express the glory of being alone"
If you're truly introverted and prefer to be alone, you are not necessarily lonely but if you yearn for connections you do not have, that is loneliness

Social status is where most of our stress comes from
Demonstrated by punching small balloons into the woman's forearms, that it took an average of 9 days longer for caregivers'wounds to heal compared to unstressed controls (48.7 days versus 39.3 and there was signs of immune dysfunction in the caregivers that might have been to blame for the late healing as well as differences in cardiovascular reactivity

The Goldilocks-touch that Target CT fibers-not too slow or not too fast, but just right-has been shown to decrease 9 month old heart rates and increase their attention to the brush. Children at a variety of ages preferred to other kinds of touch
Babies master two critical skills "mutual gaze" and smile to melt hearts

Over our lifetimes, we can recognize as many as 10,000 faces - the average is 5,000 cash and generally tell them apart quite easily in spite of the fact that they all share very similar geometry, in many share the same coloring or features, like snub noses around cheeks.

People who adapt to change more easily manipulate time. Specifically, they treat time with less rigidity than others and shift expectations more readily and fluently. For example, they easily move from the clock time of their jobs, to the subjective time of their bodies needs and rhythms, and shared time with friends and family. Integrating time, known as temple work, enhances cognitive flexibility and problem solvin

In 2010, researchers in the department of psychology at Oxford University designed a study that revealed how playing Tetris reduced the intensity of traumatic memories and stop them from intruding and voluntarily. Vivid memories and recurrent thoughts are constant criteria of ptsd. The researchers described Tetris as a "cognitive vaccine" against these types of memories what is known as- dual task processing

Today, more than 60% of young men are single - and number that is doubled the rate among women
It's important to point out that women also embrace masculine ideas, especially since demonstrating strength and rationality is one way to counter sexist and racist bias. However, when women do, they can also suffer the negative effects of social disconnection

Rates of infectious diseases correlate to rises in "vertical" laws, which target discrete groups with punitive measures such as criminalizing abortion or closing borders using painful and cruel measures
Widowers are far more resilient than widowers. During the year after the death of a spouse, men are 70% more likely to die than pairs whose spouses are alive. For women, with wider relationships, 27%

Part 2 getting better at reading others

Feeling good, feeling good, all the money in the world spent on feeling good. -levon helm
Facebook is about the relationship between pleasure and pain, and how understanding that relationship has become essential for a life well lived.
Why?
Because we've transformed the world from a place of scarcity to place of overwhelming abundance: drugs, food, news, gambling, shopping, gaming, texting, s******, facebooking

if you're going to write a book, start with your own ideas! The worst kind of success is achieving other people's goals. Don't live someone else's dream

work samples are 1 on 1 at the end of the interview, instead of being judged, you get to be the judge. You're asked to rate your interview experience-how they made you feel & whether you preformed your best
an algorithm is an input to human judgement-not a substitute for it
it's easier to fix a biased algorithm than a biased human
but they rely on data from the past to predict the future potential, they over info

the fear of confirming negative stereotypes has been shown to disrupt focus & drain working memory, obscuring the abilities of women in math test, immigrants on verbal test, older adults on cognitive test & students with physical &learning disabilities
interviewers most likely to pose rain teasers were narcissists & sadists you is a jerk deriving pleasure from others pain

social class achievement gap:1st generation college students tend to under-preform academically due to a series of invisible disadvantages. The expectation to pave their own paths discourages them from seeking help. The pressure to pay their own way, the presence of self-doubt, & the absence of belonging all interfere with their ability to focus

The Peter principle is a concept in management developed by Laurence J. Peter which observes that people in a hierarchy tend to rise to "a level of respective incompetence": employees are promoted based on their success in previous jobs until they reach a level at which they are no longer competent, as skills in one job do not necessarily translate to another.

climate for voice & psychological safety. There's evidence that just being looked at by the leader is enough to encourage people who lack status to speak up.
most workplaces, opportunity exists on a ladder-it gives 1 individual far too much power to shut creativity down & shut people up. A single no is enough to kill an idea-or even stall a career.
it's easy for managers to find reasons to say no

Not wanting to be unprepared & outdone, men picked up the norm & started doing their homework too

smarter teams have a higher proportion of women the key is on average women outperform men in test of reading other people's thoughts & feelings they tend to instill these skills in their teams. Both economist & psychologist find that good team players motivate the rest of the group to contribute more women more likely to read the material before the meeting.

brainstorming groups fall so far short of their potential that we get more ideas-& better ideas-if we work alone
if you had to identify, in 1 word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, & never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be: meeting.
none of us are as dumb as of us us
participation becomes lopsided in favor of the biggest egos, the loudest voices & most powerful people

highly narcissist people were more likely to rise into leadership roles, but they were less effective in those roles
they made self-serving decisions & instilled a zero-sum view of success, provoking cutthroat behavior & undermining cohesion & collaboration
when they grow up narcissists wreak havoc on their teams

when we choose leaders, we don't usually pick the person with the strongest leadership skills (babble effect) we frequently choose the person who talks the most
we mistake confidence for competence, certainly for credibility, & quantity for quality. We get stuck on those who dominate the discussion instead of those who elevate it
the worst babblers are the ball hogs, poorest prosocial skills & biggest egos

with prosocial skills, team members are able to bring out the best in 1 another. Collective intelligence rises as team members recognize 1 another's strengths, develop strategies for leveraging them, & motive 1 another to align their efforts in pursuit of a shared purpose
the glue that transforms groups into teams
the camaraderie don't necessarily improve team performance
what makes the diff a important mission

bad-apple study in the NBA they coded players narcissism psychologists at their twitter profiles
if teams has many or even 1 extreme narcissist, they completed fewer & won fewer games. They also failed to improve over the season-especially if their point guard scored high on narcissism. Narcissists are ball hogs, & the most undervalued players are the ones who help their teammates score

teamwork failed to make dram work. It was more likely to be a nightmare . . . as anyone who ever did a group project in school can attest
the best teams have the most team players- people who excel at collaborating with other
although it is nice to have a savant or 2 on the team, they do little good if no one else sees their value & people pursue their own agendas
a single bad apple can spoil the barrel

more than half of Chinese students student reported feeling sometimes or always miserable , & over 3/4 felt sometimes or always sad
students at high-achieving high schools are depressed & anxious at 3 to 7 times above national norms
Finland helps students without monopolizing their time, wreaking havoc on their lives, or making them hate school