Status Updates From Sensing the Self: Women's R...

Seriously one of the best things I’ve read in a while, great analysis on sociocultural effects of self estrangement and humanizing the disorder/‘other-self’ & the reasons for its development

When our needs, preferences, and limits go unacknowledged by those we value, we learn to hide our feelings, whether consciously or unconsciously, so as not to leave ourselves open to the shame we would feel if we expressed them clearly and they were ignored. Hiding our feelings not only makes it hard for others to read our emotional cues but also makes it hard for us to sense our own internal states

one function of anger is to signal to the self and others that the self's interests and limits, whether physical or psychic, are threatned. Anger motivates us to protest when our needs, preferences, and limits go unheeded. Anger helps us set, hold, or reestablish the limits of what we will tolerate.

when a parent is physically present but emotionally absent or abusive, the situation is highly confusing for a child

But a person who suffers chronic emotional invalidation in childhood sees no obvious explanation for why she feels so bad and is therefore apt to doubt that her pain is legitimate.

How do we sense self?