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« The point of feeling a feeling you can’t do anything about is to let it discharge, complete the cycle, so that it can end. »

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« There was no relationship between the grades women gave their orgasms and the genital responses traditionally treated as “markers” of orgasm, such as number of contractions of the pelvic floor muscle. »

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« If we had a more sex-positive culture, women’s desire would be more like men’s!” which is the same men-as-default myth that causes women to feel broken. »

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« But hormones are a small—often negligible—part of the context that shapes a woman’s sexual wellbeing, so changing them can make only a small—often negligible—impact »

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« Might the culture be less tolerant of the suffering of girls, if that suffering isn’t to feed boys’ hunger but only feeds their interest? Maybe not, I don’t know. But I do know that men’s sexual entitlement is a primary reason they sexually assault women.12 »

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« and pow! you’re saying to yourself, “I would like some sex!” This is how it works for maybe 75 percent of men and 15 percent of women »

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« If that’s true, then when your doctor taps your knee’s patellar tendon and your leg kicks out, that must mean you actually want to kick your doctor. »

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« Genital response is specific to sexually relevant stimuli—regardless of whether those stimuli are sexually appealing. »

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« There is about a 50 percent overlap between what a male’s genitals respond to as “sexually relevant” and what his brain responds to as “sexually appealing.” And there is about a 10 percent overlap between what a female’s genitals respond to as “sexually relevant” and what her brain responds to as “sexually appealing.”  »

« Want to lose ten pounds without diet or exercise? Cut off your leg at the knee! I guarantee, the next time you step on a scale, you’ll weigh less.
• Or, hey, want to lose five pounds of fat? Have your brain removed—its mass is almost 100 percent fat!
• You know who’s always thin? People who’ve been living in a prison camp!

« Students laugh like I made a joke when I ask, “What would happen if you met your friends at dinner and said, ‘I feel so beautiful today!’?”
“Really, what would happen?” I insist.
“No one would do that,” they tell me.
“But . . . how often would someone meet friends at dinner and say, ‘I feel so fat today’?”
“All the time,” they say. »

« Love, according to the parable, is the pursuit of our own wholeness. »

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« And in a culture where women have to spend so much time with the brakes on, saying no, it’s no wonder we have fantasies about abandoning all control, relaxing into absolute trust (turning off the brakes) and allowing ourselves to experience sensation. »

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« male and female bodies—there’s at least as much variability within those groups as there is between those groups. »

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« And it turns out, both women and men “get wet.” The male homologue, the Cowper’s gland, just below the prostate, produces preejaculate. »

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