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It’s really making me question how immeshed my relationship is with my mother

Reflective. Hard to read at times, it forces you to look inward and not antagonize your thoughts. You’re allowed to look inward and give yourself grace.

Enjoying having this book be a part of my daily morning routine!

Enjoyable but also nothing "new" that I haven't seen in one of the other self-help books I've read in the past before

Also decided to pick up this book since I feel I need it, given recent happenings. I read How to Be the Love You Seek last year around this time when I was having different relationship issues, and I'm curious as to how different/similar this might read

I love me some self-help/psychology but after a while they all feel similar

“Our parent figures have lived in a condition state for their whole lives. Decades have learned behaviors not just evaporate when you point them out. Sometimes these conversation conversations may be more hurtful than they are productive. There might even be anger directed back at you.”

Thinking about the conversations I’ve tried already with mine…….

“Their adult children often live from that protected and familiar space of their ego and often have an intense need to be “right” rejecting other people‘s opinions and making others feel just as small and insignificant as they once did.”

Whew. So glad I have this reference as my next read.

Can I read this book in peace!? Now I know why I’m an oversharer.

I started to skim. I didn’t think I needed help with this “boundaries” section. Until the topic of being TOO rigid came up and this book read me to filth. Again. *sigh* add this to the list of things I need to ask my therapist.

I need to borrow this book again or buy it, my head is too all over the place to finish it by tomorrow. (My return date)

“I’ve always wanted to be laid back and stress free…

…then there were always the damn dishes.”

“..or you may receive awards and recognition without doing too much active work, which made you internalize a belief that ‘ I only enjoy things that I’m naturally good at and will quit anything that challenges me or is not immediately easy’.”

Wowwwww. This is me. When I was younger nothing seems too hard to do, makes sense as an adult why I quit when I get challenged.

It’s taking me forever to finish this book. I am too distracted with life but every time I pick it up its full of info I definitely want to know.

it’s been a long time since i picked up a personal development read, but i’m struggling in a couple areas right now that i’d like some guidance on, so i started reading this one. so far, nothing she’s saying sounds revolutionary so we’ll see if i finish it, but i do love her use of daily habits rec!

Page 257: A day in the life of doing the work
Balance your mind & reconnect with your soul

Page 255: Do the Work - Assess Interdependent Relationships
Interesting questions

FSJ - I didn't find these exercises useful to do on your own. The author communicated something through them for the book, but filling in the blanks yourself (to me) doesn't really have much benefit.

Page 175: Trauma Bonds
parent vicariously lives through you/molds/shapes you

Not sure why I marked this page but it was good

Page 154: Do the Work: Meet Your Shadow

Another good exercise to do

Mastering ego, not ego 'death'

Page 145: Ego Activation

Pages 118-120
1: Do The Work: Core Beliefs Inventory. Themes that run through your mind during the day
2: FSJ: Creating a New Belief

Good ones to do

Page 118: Core Beliefs [from Childhood]
Important page!!
Seeing the world through the lens of our core beliefs (often negative)
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Page 96: Healing Sleep
last paragraph mainly

Page 83: Nervous System Dysregulation
Physical/social symptoms

Page 74: Poor vagal tone
-> x emotional resilience, inability to form meaningful connections, issues with concentration, difficulty planning for the future, trouble delaying gratification

Page 71: Polyvagal Theory

Page 67: Trauma Body
Stress
trauma makes you sicker & die younger

Page 60: Do the work: Identify your childhood wounds
exercise

Page 57: Patterns, stress, coping strategies
good definitions