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Children create behavioral models based on the violence they witness at home. They mirror the behavior of their caregivers, adopt patterns of secrecy, feel guilty, and experience the same intense tension and fear in anticipation of violence. Abuse becomes so normative that they often seek or even find comfort in recurring patterns.

Psychopaten hadden makkelijk praten. Ze waren niet tot wroeging in staat, want ze hielden zichzelf nooit verantwoordelijk voor het kwaad dat ze aanrichtten. Het was altijd de schuld van anderen. De enige spijt die ze ooit voelden, was spijt dat ze gepakt waren.

Perpetrators of violence have virtually no sense of self-worth. The criticism with which they assail their victims is of the same nature as the criticism they direct at themselves.