Status Updates From Women Don't Ask: Negotiatio...

… actually you really have to … make yourself known and ask for it bluntly—and repeatedly—at times. That was a very difficult lesson and I think I’m still learning that lesson, but it does work. I think it’s like [political] message work…. You have to tell people [what you want] three times for them to hear it.

Whenever a man asks for and receives some significant reward or opportunity, a really good manager will consider doing the same for his or her female employees with the same qualifications.

If adults are guiding girls toward more structured activities, they’re actually training them to follow externally imposed rules, let others control their circumstances, and assert themselves less. They’re teaching them to accept the status quo and go along with it, rather than question it.

the teacher asked her students to think about how their lives would be different if they’d been born the opposite gender.
Items on the boys’ list included: “I’d have to help my mom cook”; “I’d have to stand around at recess instead of getting to play basketball”…
Examples from the girls’ list included: “I could stay out later”; “I’d get to play more sports”

I’ll be honest: I do not like this book so far. I’m hoping it redeems itself later on by including more recent research and bringing in actual tips for women to learn how to better negotiate… so far, the “research shows…” facts and references are all from 1980-2000, and I’m reading the version published in 2021