Status Updates From Mothers Who Can't Love: A H...

The question is - why.

“When you’re eight, you don’t want to be Mom’s best friend. You just want to be her little girl” autschi

“She puts me down, but she envies me” 🤘🏻

Damn

“LYING, GASLIGHTING, AND DENIAL” - sounds good🤌🏻

Let’s dive deep into my traumas. 🤘🏻

Good so far. The author/narrorator voice is very scary movie-esque 😂

So far very eye opening to my healing journey in CPTSD

Enlightening. Hard to read because it is so eye-opening.

this book is kicking my ass

therapy + reading = happy ashlyne

I love getting to read books with clients and learn alongside them!

Do not read this before bed omg I’m gonna need a bunch of destressing

MAN

The activity on Truth and Lies is so corny.

this made me realize how much i downplay my trauma LMAO

jesus christ i feel like tearing up

Sad that I’m stopping at the chapter which interests me the most, but so far really good.

I know this book is about mothers, but my god do so many lines in The Narcissistic Mother perfectly capture my father. I wish there was a book just like this except for daughters of fathers who can’t love.

That was crazy… I don’t know what to say… but she’s definitely onto something here

“But as more and more daughters kept bringing their mother wounds to me, I knew I needed to speak woman-to-woman to the millions who are grappling with an unloving mother and the soul-deep consequences of having her in their lives.”

LMAO, that’s fucked up, but I find that funny. Thank you traumatized daughters for making her write this book.

Don't judge me, my therapist said I should read this so that's what I'm doing okay? Mind your business.

fuck jill me and my besties hate jill but…. Susan said i should wait until im at least 3 months sober before i finish this book… so idk if i’ll ever finish the book….

“The big sticking point for me is that I just don’t feel . . . qualified to be a mother. How can you give a child what you didn’t have yourself? One thing I refuse to do is have a child and then screw up somehow. And given my history, I’ll probably get everything all wrong.”

“No matter how badly she was mistreated, it’s difficult for a daughter to do anything other than be pulled back into her mother’s world when her mother is suffering.”

“To individuate, the key task of adulthood, is to become your own woman, and it can’t happen if you’ve never allowed yourself the freedom of venturing toward what you want, expressing your talents, and liking what you like. Within your own boundaries, you are in control.”

“‘I feel like there’s an invisible string tying us together and keeping me from getting on with my life.’ Those old feelings are the string. They make you behave in ways that hurt you, and they come up when you least expect it.”

“Mom, I want you to acknowledge that you terrorized a small, defenseless child and you created a lot of damage to my soul that was really difficult to repair. I really wish you had the guts to apologize for what you did and to admit what a coward you were.”

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“Forgiveness is not a magic wand that you can wave to change everything, especially when your parents have done nothing to take responsibility for their destructive behavior.””

“Emotionally infantile and insecure, a sexual abuser is deeply dysfunctional and severely disturbed in his personal life, no matter how well he may function in the outside world.”