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Just finding this more grim than others do. Lots and lots of over explanation and very yells at clouds vibes.

Not much explanation either of what attachment theory is or what good attachment would look like...

Figuring out what we want has to begin with having the freedom to not want.

We must never intentionally make a child feel bad, guilty, or ashamed in order to get him to be good. Abusing the attachment conscience evokes deep insecurities in the child and may induce him to shut it right down for fear of being hurt.

A child is receptive to being taken care of or to being directed as long as he experiences himself in dependent mode. Children properly placed in the hierarchy of attachment instinctively want to be taken care of. They spontaneously look up to their parents, turn to them for answers, and defer to them.

These days many people resist the concept of power. As children, some of us knew all too well the power of parents and became painfully aware of its potential for abuse. We are mindful that power leads to temptation and have experienced that those who seek power over others cannot be trusted.