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“you break a negative feedback loop by giving it a positive input instead, it will spin into a positive feedback loop. That creates a kind of snowball effect, which takes on a life of its own. Make a small, incremental change today, and it will gather momentum the next day, and the day after that, and the day after that… until you’re surprised at what you’ve accomplished.”
― Ian Tuhovsky, The Science of Self Talk: How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence and Stop Getting in Your Own Way

“He [the Lord] squinted against the sun.

'Worry is something you create.'

'Why would we create worry?' [Nina]

'To fill a void.'

'A void of what?'

'Faith.”
― Mitch Albom, The Stranger in the Lifeboat

“Engage in mental time travel. Another way to gain distance and broaden your perspective is to think about how you’ll feel a month, a year, or even longer from now. Remind yourself that you’ll look back on whatever is upsetting you in the future and it’ll seem much less upsetting.”
― Ethan Kross, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It

“The desire to have control over oneself is a strong human drive. Believing that we have the ability to control our fate influences whether we try to achieve goals, how much effort we exert to do so, and how long we persist when we encounter challenges. Given all this, it is not surprising that increasing people’s sense of control has been linked to benefits that span the gamut from improved physical health and emotional well-being, to heightened performance at school and work, to more satisfying interpersonal relationships. Conversely, feeling out of control often causes our chatter to spike and propels us to try to regain it. Which is where turning to our physical environments becomes relevant.”
― Ethan Kross, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It