Something to Think About

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At one point, Maya asks Lochan, "Do you think, if we'd had conventional parents, or just parents, you and I would have fallen in love?"

It's a good question...

Do you think they would still have fallen in love?

[Diana]

idk that's a good question i think that it true

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Hmm... What do you mean if they'd still met? They'd still be brother and sister. Only thing is, their parents would be present in their lives, present and parental. No alcoholic mother, no missing father—they'd be a complete family. If not a complete family (I'm not sure their father's feelings for their mother would change), a family.

I don't think they would have. I hate to say it, but their love for each other seems more a psychological issue than a physical one.

If their parents had been present and parental—we're talking throughout their entire lives here—they wouldn't have felt the need to turn to each other as much. They, as well as their younger siblings, would have other people they could trust and depend on—it wouldn't be so hard on Lochan and Maya.

[A]

T. C. Apostrophe wrote: "Hmm... What do you mean if they'd still met? They'd still be brother and sister. Only thing is, their parents would be present in their lives, present and parental. No alcoholic mother, no missing ..."

I read this just today. I agree, I think it was the fact that they had to support on each other all the time and constantly look after the kids that led to their falling in love.

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Subham wrote: "I think the question is fairly easy...
No MUM=BITCH means
No DAD-LEAVING, which says that
No trouble in bringing up Tiffin, Kit, and Wila, also
No fear of Social Services
No dumbarse mother drinkin..."

No signs of social weirdness? I'm not sure about that.
Social anxiety can manifest on its own, I believe.

[Kara]

I wondered about that too. One of them, or perhaps both of them, said at one point that they always felt a certain kinship with each other, beyond brother/sister, even when they were kids (before the parents left). So I think at best they would always have been "weirdly close."

I think they definitely felt in love with each other because they were basically a couple raising 3 kids. I think if they'd had a more stable family life, they would have had time to pursue other more healthy relationships. Lochan probably would have gotten better help with his anxiety, they'd have had time to develop friendships because they wouldn't have to leave school right away to be the sole caregivers for the other kids.
They probably would have always been a little too close, but probably would have become some weird "BFF" type situation.

[Kim]

I don't think they would have. I think their love is situational. I think if they weren't raising a family together, they would have had their own lives, not spent has much time together perhaps. In their current situation they were raising a family, relying on each other to cook, clean, pay bills, shop, tend to children etc. They were a "couple" even before the romance started. I think the love they shared for the family is what brought them closer and pushed their bond further into physical intimacy.