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How old should someone be to read this book?
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May 14, 2013 08:20AM
If you have to ask the question, then you are probably not mature enough to handle the subject matter
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Lisa wrote: "Just wondering what you think the suitable age should be... I'm sixteen and I've heard that this book is really good but I'm not really sure if it's appropriate for someone of my age. I heard there..."Hi Lisa,
I feel like one should at least be in college before reading this book... I know that we are "growing up" at younger ages nowadays, but I do not feel the material in this book is worth reading when in High School. It challenges the way one might think about sex, and sexuality. Even as an older adult, I found a lot of it disturbing.
The book is an adult book. So I agree with 18+.
i really dont see why should anyone write such novels.arent porns all over the internet enough?well.....actually they can do more dan what porns can do.i seriously did not take the erotic scenes but it was kind of creepy reading it at night.
Lily wrote: "I'm younger than you and I started reading it not knowing what the main idea of the book was. The description doesn't indicate any of the nasty stuff that goes on in that book! Seriously, I'm scarr..."...obviously virgins -_-
40 or 50 is about the age you should read this book. ;-)
um well I don't think there's anything wrong -- I'm just 13 and I've read the whole triology, and my friends too, even the guys...
Well its not just sex.Its BDSM sex.Even it being implied is enough to limit these books to some ages.Since everyone else' comfort zone is different we cant say 'oh it depends on your comfort zone'.Because how would they know without reading it completely?Giving some examples, like if you've read this it's ok to read it, would be ok in my book but saying things like 'come on, its just a book.Its just sex' seriously?This book definitely should be at least +18.It'll be your choice to read it but still, there are lots of disturbing images, lines here for teenegers
Kelly wrote: "um well I don't think there's anything wrong -- I'm just 13 and I've read the whole triology, and my friends too, even the guys..."wow thirteen....way too young. I was reading Nancy Drew when I was thirteen.
Merry wrote: "wow thirteen....way too young. I was reading Nancy Drew when I was thirteen. .."...and I was reading Nancy Drew when I was 6. So it depends on the person.
I read all of them, 18 and older,is what I would say the limit should be or maybe a more mature person , when is the movie is what I want to know?
Tamara wrote: "Well its not just sex.Its BDSM sex.Even it being implied is enough to limit these books to some ages.Since everyone else' comfort zone is different we cant say 'oh it depends on your comfort zone'...."Oh well everyone is different -- I grew out of the Shopaholic series when I was just 11...and I read Nancy Drew at 7 just because it was popular, but I didn't find it interesting.
Honestly, I don't think you can declare a set age because so many people are more advanced their age so basically I just think, if you're open and comfortable with the topic of sex, you're not awkward about it, or even if it is in someway, you're able to deal with it, then thats fine. Just prepare yourself & know what you're getting into lolMe, I'm 17 & I just finished reading it & when I went into it, I had NO CLUE it was as graphic and erotic as it is, actually I had NO CLUE what it was about AT ALL so at first it was weird, like woah, but I became okay with it, but when I would talk about it with my mom or family friends, it be really awkward lol.
Like others have said it depends on the maturity level of the person. Personally I say no one under 15 should read this. I would have read something like this when I was 16. I wouldn't recommend it though. I don't think it's too explicit but the writing is horrendous and I don't feel exposing teenagers to poorly written books about anything is a good idea. We want to encourage them to read not turn them off of it completely.
Leslie wrote: "Like others have said it depends on the maturity level of the person. Personally I say no one under 15 should read this. I would have read something like this when I was 16. I wouldn't recommend it..."If we discouraged teens from reading poorly written books, they might not read much at all. :0) Many of the books written specifically for teens are pretty awful in the writing department.
Mary wrote: "Leslie wrote: "Like others have said it depends on the maturity level of the person. Personally I say no one under 15 should read this. I would have read something like this when I was 16. I wouldn..."Lol! Good point!
I think as long as you keep an open mind and can handle things that could have been sensitive to others, maybe you can read this but certainly not recommended to people younger
To me the question isn't really should people under 18 be reading this. I think most would instinctively say no.....but is that realistic? Are there people under 18 reading it? That's really the most important question. If the answer is yes, it seems to me that people should be talking with their kids more. A teen reading FSOG is definitely a problem if that teen is learning about sex and relationships for the first time from it. I'm not saying that you should teach a 12 yr old about nipple clamps and butt plugs when you teach them about sex for the first time (btw, sex discussions should have started way before 12 imo). However, if you are talking to your kids and you find out that they or their friends are reading FSOG, I think you definitely better talk to them about it because their friends definitely will and the info that your kids get from them might not be the best or even accurate. Along those same lines, if your kid is reading it and hiding it from you, you've got an even bigger problem that truly didn't start with this novel.
Books represent freedom and there should definitely not be an age restriction to books- any books! Go for it! So long as one does not what I'd call, blindly read, any material should be suitable. Mx
forget age this book shudnt have been published in the first place
Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "forget age this book shudnt have been published in the first place"Ah...a book censor.
I think it depends of the way you see the things that the book has. I'm 14, and the trilogy is the best trilogy I've ever read
Emmy wrote: "I think it depends of the way you see the things that the book has. I'm 14, and the trilogy is the best trilogy I've ever read"In that case you clearly havent read any good books in your life .
Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "Emmy wrote: "I think it depends of the way you see the things that the book has. I'm 14, and the trilogy is the best trilogy I've ever read"In that case you clearly havent read any good books in ..."
Aisha, which aspects of the books did you think deemed unsuitable for publication? Perhaps if we learn of your specific dislike, we can move away from these meaningless personal attacks and actually get somewhere?
Mx
i read the first book at 14.. then read the last two at fifteen.. i dont find it that bad i was able to laugh at it and enjoy parts of it. i found myself more captured by the characters, especial christian grey, i was interested in what caused him to be the way he is as apposed to being horrified by his sex life. i'd love to re-read the books but from christians pov instead.
Mochaspresso wrote: "To me the question isn't really should people under 18 be reading this. I think most would instinctively say no.....but is that realistic? Are there people under 18 reading it? That's really the..."Very well put.
Marcus wrote: "Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "Emmy wrote: "I think it depends of the way you see the things that the book has. I'm 14, and the trilogy is the best trilogy I've ever read"In that case you clear..."
It wasnt a personal attack, you could refer to any worthy critic and find that the book is notonly lacking in a good charecterization butit has very bad writing as well . As for your question of why i dislike the book , its because itwas pretty much undisipherable , the writing was so bad dont u think so ? The email format kept changing through out whats up with that ..
Ps : sorry for any mistakes, imwriting from mynook and its hard to fix all the mistakes loll
Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "Ps : sorry for any mistakes, imwriting from mynook and its hard to fix all the mistakes loll ..."Which should alert you to the fact that this book was very poorly edited. It actually was not poorly written. It was just not ready for publication without some major tweaks. If about 2/3 of the narrative had been hacked away to clean up dragging parts and redundancy and if the use of Britishisms by American characters had been corrected, what would have been left was an average book - perhaps even slightly above average.
I think I partly agree with you guys: shockingly, her use of language, in particular repetitive vocabulary lowered my opinion of it. But to be honest, these are the first books I have read in this genre so I don't have much to compare it with... But I was really intrigued by the themes explored by the author through the motif of sex and relationships, so if we were to move away from the criticism of the writing style, there is a lot of potential I believe. x
Mary wrote: "Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "Ps : sorry for any mistakes, imwriting from mynook and its hard to fix all the mistakes loll ..."Which should alert you to the fact that this book was very poorly..."
yea that could be it, but whose fault is that? the faults were so obvious that they shoudl have been edited...
Marcus wrote: "I think I partly agree with you guys: shockingly, her use of language, in particular repetitive vocabulary lowered my opinion of it. But to be honest, these are the first books I have read in this ..."you could be right but the thing comes back to the fact that she didn't fulfill the potential did she...because i found the characters lacking in any personality, and i think characterization is very important in a book.
Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "you could be right but the thing comes back to the fact that she didn't fulfill the potential did she...because i found the characters lacking in any personality, and i think characterization is very important in a book. .."Again, I disagree. The characters did have personalities. I just don't think many people cared for those personalities. :0)
Christian as a character was much more developed than Ana. For most of the trilogy she was a little too passive-aggressive which made her appear as a doormat. Her character grew a bit in the latter parts of the book, but not enough.
I think the main problem with these books were they were fanfic attempts and that serial type format does not always translate well into a cohesive narrative. If you read books based on a series, many times the authors will catch people up who have not been reading all along by using a short recap. It seems that while not exactly a continuous recap, there was something akin to that in the redundancy.
Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "yea that could be it, but whose fault is that? the faults were so obvious that they shoudl have been edited... ..."I think she did have an editor, but if I recall correctly, the editor was not a professional. So you DO get what you pay for. Also, it is not always easy to see mistakes in something you personally write. I write grants for a living as well as writing book reviews for another site. I always get someone else to take a look at what I have written to catch my mistakes. I think what she did was actually not a bad first book(s). The writing gets better over the course of the trilogy. I think she has talent that if developed well could turn her into a pretty good writer.
Mary wrote: "Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "yea that could be it, but whose fault is that? the faults were so obvious that they shoudl have been edited... ..."I think she did have an editor, but if I recall..."
what about the ever changing format of the emails? lolll and her her talking tio her "subconscious" all the time, it isnt very SUB if she talks to it..lollll
Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "Mary wrote: "Aisha (ooooo shiney!!! ) wrote: "yea that could be it, but whose fault is that? the faults were so obvious that they shoudl have been edited... ..."I think she did have an editor, bu..."
I imagine that every single mistake in the books has been endlessly pointed out to her. I bet she learns from her mistakes.
Claire wrote: "I think it all depends on how comfortable you are with the content and the maturity of the person. I'm 16 and I read it. Not a big deal. People are making it way more than it is. It's just sex, peo..."Claire,
Being your age, you might think it happens all the time, and for certain couples you might be right. But there is a super thin line between the sexual content in 50 Shades and an everyday sexual relationship. It's not even really so much the BDSM aspect of the book that gets people so riled up. It's the fact that the book takes a very graphically negative and stereotypical view of the community it portrays. It's more than "just sex" for a lot of people. For the people who live this way and participate in "kinky" sex often, it's part of how they live.
Go for it i'm 14 and read and enjoyed it. Check it out if you don't like it don't finish it.Just my option.
it all depends on the maturity of a reader !!!!its definitely for mature people and other will find out themselves that this book doesn't meant to them ;)
Lisa wrote: "Just wondering what you think the suitable age should be... I'm sixteen and I've heard that this book is really good but I'm not really sure if it's appropriate for someone of my age. I heard there..."ive read it and im sixteen i dont think age should really determine it i think the maturatiy of how you think should
You have to be old enough to make your own decisions and wise enough to know what you like and don't like. It is like smoking. You know it is not good for you, and if you are wise you will not smoke, no matter what. However, if you find it acceptable and do not care about your health, no matter what anyone says you will enjoy it. This book is that same. If you are intrigued, read it, and then bring your own decisions. However, I wouldn't recommend it as a classic read, but you will not get damaged for life if you like it or not.
I'm 12 and heard that this book was really good and I wanted to read it. I knew my parents wouldn't let me read it but I did. I actually read the whole series and I loved it. I wasn't scarred for life or anything and I couldn't put the books down. I wish there were more. As I said, I'm 12 and I loved them.
No one under 18 should read this book!
I wouldn't recommend this book to anyone under 20. I believe it is much better to have a clear sense of "self" before reading this sort of book. Although, I enjoyed the book, I felt the young woman gives up so much of her power. And allows the main character to control her. The main character Christian, has way too many "issues". There are a couple of characters from Christians' past that take some very disturbing actions.
It's hard to give an age, some people mature faster than others. Some people are not as susceptible or as easily influenced as others to what they see or read and young teens have always found a way to read or watch what they're not suppose to, I have. But I couldn't physcially hand this book over to anyone under 16, even though I would have probably tried reading this at 13, so if someone who is under 16 feels they are ready for it then I leave it to them.
i think anyone beyond 18 years of age.. there are too many sexual contents in this book.. as they say for adults only.. minors are not allowed.. :)
Age has nothing to do with being able to read this book. It's about your maturity. If you can't handle graphic sex then you don't have the emotional capacity to read this book. Simple as that.
it depends on the maturity notwithstanding that gen-nxt is getting mature at very early stage. a boy or a girl at age of 11 maybe more aware abt sex than a 16 year old or a 16 yr old may be mature than guy in his early 20's ..so it all depend on maturity, ur society and circle around you.any way this is worst book of all time ..don't how come james wrote the series...
I'm 14 and i read this book although it would be more suitable for a 16+ age group
Well,, this is a heavy book!!.. talking about this kind of topics not used to be very frequently... at least not for me till one friend recommended me this book..To read this kind of books u need to have an OPEN MIND!
and to understand that this is just a book!Maybe fantasies of women & men.
Definitely person who read this books should be 18+..
Just in case...we don't want anymore teenagers mothers
jajaja...
Anyway.. after have read this books i have discovered a lot of Greats books better than these... Much better.. i mean. not talking specific about the "sex" ... but there's a lot of books with a better story with erotic narration!
Well... love& peace
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