Fifty Shades of Grey
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How old should someone be to read this book?
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Jan 08, 2013 12:41PM
very very mature
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well i'm fifteen and i've read it. it's not as bad as people say it is. to be honest the content is quite mild with a few interesting bits in it. it is misjudged all the time and i think it is a really good book, and i've read alot of books. :)
Sometimes I find it disturbing that there are people that are young that think the content is mild. It's not really mild. It's not so shocking that you should be traumatized but it's not mild. People seem more and more desensitized.
I think that it depends on the person. Not everyone has the same maturity level and open mindedness at the same age. I read these books, and honestly, found that I had read a lot worse at a much younger age. Yes, there is sex in this book, and a lot of it, but so do so many other books out there. If you don't feel comfortable, don't read it.
I think you really don't need to read it. I am sixteen and i read it but i really wish i hadn't. I read al three books and i must say two and three are a lot better than the first because sjeesh the first book.... Really i have no idea wat to think about all that stuff and i really don't want to think about it either so...
Shaunna wrote: "I think that it depends on the person. Not everyone has the same maturity level and open mindedness at the same age. I read these books, and honestly, found that I had read a lot worse at a much ..."Indeed. And it really isn't about BDSM so it's not shocking. It's about a man who was into BDSM who starts a relationship with ... Ana ... who teaches him *apparently* that vanilla is okay too. If at 14/15 you don't know the basics of vanilla then sex education in schools/your family has failed you, not this book.
There is really no need to rush to read this book. It is bloody awful. I read it to see what all the hype was about but hated it. It is one of the most annoying books I have ever read. Just because it is popular does not mean it is good.My 15 year old daughter told me one of her friends is reading it and asked what I thought of it. I said it was an awful read and could be quite damaging for a young girl to read. There are so many amazing books to read. Why bother with trash?
I am/was 13 when I first read it, I have read all the book.
In all fairness to the origninal poster. You need to know your limits. I see kids here 13+ who have read the sets. They are either really mature, really desensitized, OR they have parents who have told them about sex from a very young age, and had open dialogues. My daughter is 3, we talk to her about sexuality appropriate for her age. So when she is 16 and asks to read these books, I may allow it. I will base it on her maturity, and allow her to ask questions about what she reads without feeling embarrased or shame. Talk to your parents before you read this book, find out how they feel about it because ultimately they know you best and know if you can handle it. If my husband knew I felt this way about stories like this and our daughter at 16 he would flip out. He was raised to believe that sex was a dirty thing, and basically had no opinion until he was 18 and learned different.
Its strange - I'm sure there was this sort of talk surrounding 'Lady Chatterley's Lover' as that was considered to be extremely explicit at the time it was written. It is now being taught as classic literature is some schools, and I am sure it doesnt raise so many eyebrows now!
Although I'm not saying FSOG is classic literature, I do think that it is down to the individual. Some may find it explicit and others may not.
To give my opinion as a 13 year old here, 50 Shades of Grey is nothing I haven't heard before. A day doesn't go by where you here someone got raped. Or tv shows that talk about/and or show sex. I know us as kids and teens chose what we do watch and as Dawn did say, you do need to know your limits. But 50 Shades of Grey is nothing more than another dirty way of showing teens and children what the real world is and what is ceases to become.
Maybe 89 years old. This is an "erotic tale for old ladies". I've never read something so mediocre and bad written in the last 30 years. I quitted on page 50.
Daisy wrote: "To give my opinion as a 13 year old here, 50 Shades of Grey is nothing I haven't heard before. A day doesn't go by where you here someone got raped. Or tv shows that talk about/and or show sex. I k..."The real world isn't about controlling, abusive, and BDSM relationships. It also isn't about shitty grammar. That's what education is for. Anna wasn't raped, she was just too naive and insecure to see past Christian's controlling and manipulative behavior.
Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "To give my opinion as a 13 year old here, 50 Shades of Grey is nothing I haven't heard before. A day doesn't go by where you here someone got raped. Or tv shows that talk about/and or..."Quick question for you miss, have you read all three books? Because in all three books there is more than a controlling, abusive, BDSM relationship. And if you haven't; Please do not attack me with such-such uneducated thoughts. Thank you.
I was only just turned 15 when I first started the series. I am scared for life because of this series. If I had known what the book series was like, I would have waited to read it. But, when I got the books from the library I did not know what they were like at all. So, I would wait. Also, it does not have a plot line basically. It is very graffic. And yah, I would wait. I sure wish I had.
Daisy wrote: "Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "To give my opinion as a 13 year old here, 50 Shades of Grey is nothing I haven't heard before. A day doesn't go by where you here someone got raped. Or tv shows that..."I'm not attacking you at all & I have read all three books. If they're not about a controlling, abusive, sometimes BDSM relationship, then what exactly is it about? Because that's what I mostly got out of it, along with really shitty grammar. They are show nothing of what the real world is about. But then again...at age 13 do you know what the "real world's" really about?!
Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "To give my opinion as a 13 year old here, 50 Shades of Grey is nothing I haven't heard before. A day doesn't go by where you here someone got raped. Or..."It shows nothing what the real world is about? And at age 13, I know a lot about the real world. BDSM is a way of life and if you dislike the way it works; Why'd you keep reading? You saw what the first book was about. You're not helping your case at all. Did you not see how she changed him? It shows that there is good in everyone. And please, I would love to see you have the courage to write a story. I will be the first to pick up a copy.
im 15 and I enjoyed it. It depends on how comfertable you are with your sexualty, but give it a try, it's an exciting book! I just finished American Psyco and that it what i find truly disterbing.
Daisy wrote: "Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "To give my opinion as a 13 year old here, 50 Shades of Grey is nothing I haven't heard before. A day doesn't go by where you here som..."Lucky for you I won't be writing any books in this lifetime. I have nothing against the BDSM lifestyle, the problem is that FSoG did not accurately depict those who are into the lifestyle (I'm not, just saying). When I did SKIM the other two books, Christian still seemed like the same emotionally dominating man. If your "real world" includes a man who tells you what/when to eat, someone you are sexually dependent upon, 15 orgasms a day *rolls eyes*, stalks you, and dominates your life then kudos to you young grasshopper.
Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "Catherine wrote: "Daisy wrote: "To give my opinion as a 13 year old here, 50 Shades of Grey is nothing I haven't heard before. A day doesn't go by wher..."Ahh, the act of skimming. Well if you had taken the time to READ the book; You would see how much he had changed. And no my real world is not that. And I never said it was. You obviously. cannot see my point here; So I am done try, good day
Daisy,I get what you are saying, but in all honesty, people don't change who they are just because they may love or really like you and want to keep you. I thought that I could change someone I truly loved up until my 22nd birthday when I realized nothing I did would make him change the way he treated me or was. I moved on, and he is still the exact same person he was the day I dumped him. This story is a work of fiction. It is a lovely idea that a man will change for the woman he loves, but its just that an idea. If you date a guy who tries to control you, he will always do so. The difference between this story and a controlling guy, is that there was a contract involved here. She didn't have to stay or sign(which she never did), but she decided it was exciting and of course she loved him. I think that is the point people were trying to make about needing to know what life is like in the "real world." At 13 your real world is different than it will be at 23, or even 33. I know that sounds super condescending, and I don't mean it to be. I just am unsure how to state it another way.
Dawn wrote: "Daisy,I get what you are saying, but in all honesty, people don't change who they are just because they may love or really like you and want to keep you. I thought that I could change someone I t..."
He did not change because of Ana. He had an epiphany when he thought Ana might be pregnant. He was able to understand that the seduction/abuse by his older neighbor was in fact child abuse and not a consensual relationship. Only when he could see that he had been used as a child and projected this onto a future child of his was he able to really confront his problems.
At the beginning of book 2 he promises Ana he will change because her leaving him turned his world upside down and he can't live without her. Later he changes his view of the sexual experiences as abuse from his teen years. That wasn't his personality changing that was his perception.
I think if your 13/14/whatever year old is reading this book, then at least they're not going out and doing anything like reinacting it. All the responses from teenagers on this thread have actually been pretty articulate, well thought out and have an air of reality about them. I think they're going to be okay.After all, if you're reading a book, you're pretty occupied as it is, right?
The BDSM and the sex is not what makes this book inappropriate for readers. It is the horrible writing, the lack of editing, and absence of plot that makes this book inappropriate. I worry that if younger children read it, they may think that a controlling, insane, abusive relationship, where tampon pulling and punishments for infractions, is an acceptable relationship.
This book glamorizes a man beating the shit out of a woman for things like, biting her lip, not finishing her dinner, meeting up with friends, etc... That is not healthy, and it is not okay.
Young girls should be exposed to healthier examples, and young men should know that this is unacceptable.
Well I'm 19, and I read it when I was 18....and the real reason some people are shocked is because they don't realize that these things are normal with us...I mean come on, it's sex at it's kinky best, and to be honest the BDSM quotient actually may be a bit irritating sometimes....but we all know about it, there are certain individuals who get a kick out of it, some don't what's the big deal?...and as it is all these stuffs are available on the net...so let's not make a big fuss about it....but in terms of literary value, with whatever little knowledge I have, I think its pedestrian and childish to the hilt
Diane wrote: "S wrote: "The BDSM and the sex is not what makes this book inappropriate for readers. It is the horrible writing, the lack of editing, and absence of plot that makes this book inappropriate. I wo..."
Well, this is new... the majority of the BDSM community has been very vocal about their disagreement of BDSM portrayal in these books.
And, I didn't come up with, "Beat the shit out of." It is in the book... I was quoting the books.
S wrote: "And, I didn't come up with, "Beat the shit out of." It is in the book... I was quoting the books. ..."Context is everything. I have told my husband on numerous times that I wanted to beat the shit out of him. For example once he scared me half to death by hiding in the closet after I had seen a scary movie. I told him I ought to beat the shit out of him for that.
Mary wrote: "S wrote: "And, I didn't come up with, "Beat the shit out of." It is in the book... I was quoting the books. ..."Context is everything. I have told my husband on numerous times that I wanted to b..."
You're right... context IS everything... In the book, Christian is being absolutely serious. He is not making a flip remark, he is not saying it ironically. He wants to beat her... to hurt her, as punishment. He is not laughing, he is not kidding.
And, it is wrong. Attitudes like that lead to societies that abuse women. Punishing your spouse with a spanking isn't right. Threatening your spouse with violence in an effort to control them is not right.
I'm 18 and I read all three books. I don't think anyone under 15 should read these books, but then again, it's their choice if they want to read them or not. I don't think kids would understand half the sex stuff in it though...
Diane wrote: "@S---I will repeat that the spanking, role play and BDSM lifestyle is totally and must always remain totally consensual. Granted, it is not for everyone but, I can tell you that I have an enormousl..."I hope you understand that I'm talking about what I read in the books.... not your personal lifestyle choice.
I'm 16 years old and I barely finished reading 50 Shades of Grey just yesterday evening. I found this book to be pretty interesting. Some parts surprised me, obviously, but overall I could say that it has caught my attention with the romance and adventure. I plan to write my book report on it by midnight tonight but my teacher has written "age/grade level appropriate book". I honestly had no problem with the book and its exposing details. Not sure if my teacher would agree? Would you? I could use some feedback and some opinions from my teacher's point of view. I could say I'm pretty mature for my age but I understand the graphical scenes.
S wrote: "You're right... context IS everything... In the book, Christian is being absolutely serious. He is not making a flip remark, he is not saying it ironically. He wants to beat her... to hurt her, as punishment. He is not laughing, he is not kidding. ..."...and perception is also everything. I did not see it the way you did. I saw it as him being angry because he was worried. Saying you are going to beat the shit out of someone is very different from beating the shit out of someone. He did NOT follow through on that comment.
Age shouldn't be the determinant but the maturity of the person. However, I also would not want my 16 year old cousin to read this book. I think it should be read by older adults who have a better gasp on what a relationship is. I enjoyed the book. It is truly entertaining, as a book should be. But the mature underlinings such as physical abuse in a relationship, emotional entrapment and using sex as a way to express love simply is too much for someone who was never in a healthy relationship.
Well Im 16 ( almost 17) and my sister is 11 (almost 12)and some people say ohhh its waaayyyy to old, it has sex in and BDSM and stuff, Personally I think its no big deal, my 11 year old sister is reading it, she says its no biggy. Shes knew about it for a long time and she says its fine, im not reading it though
the story was okay but the way the sex scenes are described almost made me puck.i think e l james has donea bolder work than sidney sheldon and by the way i was just 13 when i read fifty shades and my first erotica novel was "the other side of midnight" by sidney sheldon.i was twelve that time and i almost reached for my biology book in my shelf to check out some meanings.not that i am a pro at all these stuffs!!!
Hahahha I'm 13 and read it. I think it depends if you can handle it or not.
I read these at 13. No more than a year ago
The book is rated for mature aduances. I dont know why this is not paid more attention to kinda like Movies are rated by pg, pg-13, R, Ect. Most books are this way too but it is not looked into as much. I believe this books is not suitable for any one under the age of 18!!!!
I'm not one for censorship, but I honestly do think that 11 is much too young to be reading this without some type of adult supervision. (and a teenaged older sibling does not necessarily count as "adult" imo.) I read some equally racy and raunchy novels when I was 12, but I was mature, knew about sex and always had very open lines of communication with my parents about sex and most other things. An 11 yr old reading it unsupervised and saying "no biggie" to some of it's content potentially is a problem depending on where their head is at.
I'm just 15 when I read the three books. I did not take those erotic scenes seriously. It's just a matter of being open minded. But I still suggest that you should be 18 above to read this.
I think that no book should have age restriction. Even if you put a warning that a book is not for an audience under 18 or any age, there are a lot of underagers who will read it. So people who like books like this should be able to read it. There just have to be a warning for sexual content or any possible disturbing scenes for those who doesn't like it. And it should be in description. That's my opinion.
I wouldn't think anyone under 21 should read it and even then some women who have not had much experience probably should wait to read it.
It's not in the age, it's in maturity and how much you know about sex and everything about it. My cousin read it and she was already 22, and yet she was totally shocked. She's mature enough but she doesn't know a lot about what's in it. She knows every little about sex :D
I say, talk to your parents. What we think is not always what your parents think. Sit down and see what they would want. I know for my daughter, I think she atleast needs to be 17 or older. But then again, that is with all erotica. Even with movies that show more (NC17 ratings) But the book sucked! There is way better story telling out there.
Probably depends on the reader.....
How could anyone like this. I couldn't finish it. I wouldn't recommended this book for any age. It wasn't the sex that killed it for me, it was the way the woman was treated.
Like Claire said, it's not about how old you are. It's about how comfortable you are with your own sexuality. BDSM can be a lot more hardcore... fifty shades is quite soft on that level!
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