Unmeasured Strength question

I am fascinated by the survivor quality of
Ms. Manning's healing process esp since she is by her own telling the daughter of a "never-say-die" Marine, as well as a former senior level/managing partner of Cantor-Fitzgerald (lost 658 employees in the 9/11 Twin Towers attack).

I saw her interview on Oprah in her early recovery, so to see and read the interviews 10 years later is a miracle to me. I am looking forward to her book. She was blessed by a grace of a power beyond. I look to draw strength for my own journey and to "be in the now" from any new insights I cull as I read it. I hope to report back after that reading.

I will also be reading Love, Lauren & Greg, her husband's book for an outsider's perspective of sorts as there is much one misses (and gains) when life is shrunk to a focus on minute-by-minute survival as is the case with Ms. Manning/burn victims in a 15% survival group.

What has really tweaked my curiosity is that the owner of Cantor Fitzgerald, Ms. Manning's former employer and her husband's current employer, has rebuilt the business and transformed its for-profit focus to include a significant humane approach to the business of money management which has an overwhelming inclusion, so the telling suggests, of the business as family and the families of the employees. I hope to read how that works in application in the Manning's case.

I am seeking insights from the following area in this reading which can only I imagine be drawn in hindsight: How people who are to my perspective generally impervious (buffered by money, power & prestige, status) to the vicissitudes of life have been transformed by the enormity of this loss.

I love New Yorkers and what I call the "New York sensibility" -- the sometimes arrogant, often brash putting it out there approach. I grew up around many kids from such a background in the Fairfax district of Los Angeles, CA and I currently interact with many via various internet and conference call groups. I have found them to be enduring friends -- once you pass mustard with them.

I have no blame to affix regarding the matters leading to or that occurred in reaction to the events of 9/11. I am too well read and versed in history, sociology, politics, psychology and business to have any other attitude than that there is plenty of blame to go around. And, any discussion of causes to me is utterly meaningless as it won't act as a time machine to undo the destruction or bring back the dead or unhurt the many who have lost loved ones, friends, businesses, irreplaceable mementos, children who lost their innocence by facing all of these issues which are overwhelming to adults at their best and strongest.