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Did anyone else think that the ending was kind of sad?
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The ending was sad but I loved John for loving Savannah unconditionally. That was a big sacrifice for his part, because he truly love her. Sometimes it is true that if you love someone, you need to set them free.
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The ending was terrible!!!!I'm used to happy endings.
I WANT A SEQUEL WITH A HAPPY ENDING!
Of course the ending was sad! It's Nicholas Sparks, if it didn't end sad I would be worried something had happened to him. If you pick up one of his books expect it to be sad.
This book did not end the way I had hoped. Things happen and unfortunately the love she had for him was not stronger than the love she had for Tim or maybe she still loved him, but it was to late she was already married and knew she had to go on with the life she created for herself.
Yeah. I usually hate sad endings I feel depressed days after I finish the book but this sad ending I liked. It was the best way to end it, I think.
Sometimes a book that ends not the way we expect makes it all the more enjoyable. I hate it sometimes when I can predict how the book will end.
I Hated the ending!!!!!! But loved the book.
poor John
boo savanna
I actually didn't hate the ending of the book. I was a bit annoyed they changed it in the movie. Alas, a movie is a different beast.
I have to admit thatthe book's ending was true and honest. Sometimes to prove one's love, you have to be content to let them go and be happy. John showed true strength in personality by letting her go and thus making the ending both sad and happy...IN SHORT A GREAT END
It has a very sad ending yet i found it really interesting because it is not your fairy-tale type of context and its close to reality--random thoughts
The ending was heart breaking yesBut we all expected that they will live happily ever after but yet its a perfect ending a right ending
I think that this is typical of Nicholas Sparks. His books don't always have fairy tale endings. It is a more realistic look at life. Often dreams end as unrequited love.
that is very true....and I have to agree with Lisa..I hated that they changed the ending in the movie...why do they always change film to reflect perfect, happy endings?
Of course, the ending is sad. But it shows how much love he truly has for her. He felt that she would be happier without him, so that's what he gave her- despite his own desires and necessities. Undoubtably, this is one of Nicholas Sparks's saddest novels.
I guess Nicholas Sparks ended it that way because he wants to show the realistic side of the story which is the possibility of having a sad or tragic ending...some may find it imperfect but i guess, that's the perfect way on how to end such story.
The ending was just so dramatic.I haven't seen the movie yet but I wish they din't change the way it supposed to end. But as the reviews went wild, I guess I really need to watch it asap.
The end is the best part of the hole novel .. It was pure perfect .. !! I'm in love with John but I hate Savannah soo soo soo much, she broke his heart .. !!
i really don't like the ending, it broke my heart. i feel so sorry for john he has been so good and sold all the coins? it just make me sad. and dislike Savannah for a bit, can't help.
Kimberly wrote: "I really didn't like Savannah in the end. This might be the only time I preferred a moving ending compared to the book ending."I feel the same way! This is one of those few times where the movie mad the book redeemable to me not the other way around.
The ending gave me goosebumps! The kind of sadness difficult to explain...its just there...bittersweet! Cz the end makes U realise that even though she didnt end up with him he was in her thoughts and makes U wanna hope they still might have a chance somwhere, somehow! Like the way they ended up in the movie! But honestly for me its the 'sad' ending that makes the book as memorable as it is!
Erica wrote: "Yes, I thought it was sad too. Did you see the movie? They changed the ending."Yes and I hate when they totally change things in the movies. I've found it common in Sparks's books turned movies. Of course we all want the happy ending; but life doesn't always work out that way. It's one of the things I like about his books.
Shannon wrote: "I find it really sad how John doesn't get the girl he loves. He has to live with the fact that he would never get her and he has to watch her as she is in love with someone else. I know that the en..."Yes, it was sad, but it was said that John was happy when Tim was cured. I think the story tells that even though you and your loved one are over, you can still show your affection to him/her by being happy for them when they are happy with their lives. And someone better is just there. :)
It was sad ending but I guess thats the most catching part of the story.
It really was a sad ending but I think it should really end that way because that is just what the whole story is all about. We can infer that from the first statement of the book, "What does it mean to truly love another?" There was a time that John thought he knows the answer, that as long as he cares for Savannah and she cares for him too, it would be perfect but at the end he realized that love meant that you care for another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be.
Amna wrote: "omg.. i forgot how it ended.. who was savanah with?"with Tim..
Absolutely! Life happens though. He made a choice and so did she. Sometimes we all have to live with them. I think that's the theme of the whole book. Sometimes, we just wish we could turn back time.
I thought the ending was super sad and I was so disappointed that he didn't fight to have her back. And call me an idiot, but I was even more disappointed that Tim didn't die and he got to live a happy life with John's dream girl, while John sold mostly all of his father's collection to help Tim out to recover.John should have punched Tim in the face (yet again), stole Savannah away and lived a happy life with her, not the other way round!
But over all, I absolutely fell in love with both the book and the film :)
Is this question supposed to be sarcastic?
In my opinion, the ending was really sad and disappointing. If Savannah really loved Tim, she would've be more understanding and waited for him. In addition, did she marry Tim out of sympathy or for love?
I think Savannah was in a horrible situation. I believe she truly loved John, but like most long separations in relationships, you fill the void with other people and things. She had known Tim a long time and Alan all his life. She was close to them both. I think her decision to marry Tim was mainly out of being wanted and needed. Plus she did love Tim and Alan but she was never in love with Tim, like she was with John. This is why John let her go and give her the money. He knew she still loved him and he understood the reasons why she left him. It was a sad ending but I think NS doing this kind of book actually shows so many different kinds of love and heartache. This is why I do not dislike Savannah.
I have seen the film and on the dvd I have you can have two endings, the one you see when they meet again after Tim dies, which I think is nice as I thought one day they would come back together, and the other ending is like to book, where he stands and watches Savannah and Tim from a distance.
the ending was just perfect.......nicolas sparks couldnt have written better.
I liked the ending, I just wish we got more closure on John. All we get is that he gave up everything so that Savannah could live happily ever after with her now-husband and he went off to war for the 3rd time (?)I feel the ending would be better if we learned what eventually happened to John. In this ending, he sacrifices so much and yet he leaves with nothing at all.
I agree, the ending was sad although the ending was sort of predictable. I wish it would have ended differently. John and Savannah should have been married together. Even after reading the book, it still shocks me because its not fair that Savannah betrayed John and when she tries to write to him, he says "no and its not a good idea" and then he leaves to Germany and off to living a lonely life since his father died. The ending is sad but it is an example of how love is not fair and can hurt you for the rest of your life.
I didn't think the ending was sad because when you love someone you do whatever it takes to make them happy. John loved Savannah so much that her happiness was his happiness.
Although the book and movie ends with the same outline, the way the author described it in the book was extremely beautiful. The movie couldn't reach that level.
It was sad, but in some way I think it was a perfect ending to the book.
I think it fit. Sure John doesn't win the girl but she gets what she deserves for dumping him ( a sick husband). Although, I do see her view on why she did it. She and John were only together for a couple weeks, the rest was mostly letters while he was in germany. Long distance relationships are hard to keep alive.
how sad the ending was .. but that is life it's unfair .. sometimes we must be happy for the one we love even it hurts ..
He got the girl in the end. That's what it's all about - "Second Chances" . Nicholas Sparks wants all to know that and how to achieve it through Forgiveness and Acceptance and go along the New road of life without forgetting the past and more by respecting it.
Most girls do that and then say, "OH I just wanted to help" Yeah? just like in "Message In a Bottle".
Yeah, I did the same too. I let my girl go off with her new guy, get married, have kids, and when she asked me "Why?" I said,
"Go to him now he calls you,
and you can't refuse.
When you got nothing,
you got nothing to lose."
Thanks to Bob Dylan's "Like A Rolling Stone"
Absolutely True. She was a school kid who didn't know her Left from her Right. Her situation was like the story of "The father - the son - and the donkey" Now how does one handle that if one is not true to his/her own self first? She failed to trust her own love and believe in it, then in the end she just wrapped it up with some "Social service" reason.Her problem is evident from the beginning of the film to the end.
You are very correct in that. Just reminded me of a moment in my life. I used to write Dramas/ Plays for the Radio once, and I got called over to the Television. There a famous film Producer met me in the Office and told me, "...there must be pathos. Understand? PATHOS? Lotsa weeping and crying and losses that burn out the everyday person's heart. A broken, weeping heart is one that comes around each time seeking some kind of answer to his "Whys".That is human psychology. A young broken heart takes a very very long time to get it's cure. In the meantime we shall profit on it."
"If you love somebody..set her free."song by Sting
I did! I miss this book. I took it from the lost and found on the last day of school and then during the summer I told my one friend and it turns out the book was hers. :(
Even Tim knew Savannah loved John more than him!!!!
Actually it felt a little creepy to me,as if John was some sort of stalker,hiding out in a tree and watching his former love with someone else. Although I agree with the poster who commented that letting someone go is true love also. I felt extremely sorry for John, wondering if he didn't inherit some of his father's autistic-like tendencies. Savannah,although I wanted to shake her silly, I can understand her need to build a life with someone, screwing it up by choosing the someone she didn't love, and then being stuck out of loyalty.
Sad ending but I so love this book!
Sad, yes but perhaps more realistic than always having fairy tale endings to novels.
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